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writes:Why do I suck? I can't seem to find anything positive about me. A microdick, no gf, no sex or love in my life, and OAB. Please help me rebuilt my confidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): Hey, I agree with Harriett. I'm 14 and I'm a bit of a ladies man... socialising is keyNEVER NEVER NEVER STAY QUIET!!! Always try to flirt with girls, keep up a good conversation and don't bore them out. Most girls don't like quiet guys and even if you don't know the girl, try to get to no them, interact with them, even if it's just saying "hello, or wat's up - how are you doing today?? Rough day?" etc. All things you could say don't be shy. I have a similar problem to you but not the same. I could get girls, I'm just not allowed to date... and it's hard for me to sneak off and date because I don't have a house phone or a cellphone. We just have my dad's cell and that would be too suspicious. My parents are so stupid they don't let me go out and just hang so it's hard for me.Don't feel bad, it'll all get better in time - peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): Well technically if you had a sex life it would be illegal in this country anyway, so don't stress about that bit. You're still growing so don't worry about your size (what size are you anyway? Because average is 7') A lot of people don't find what they're good at in school, so do you go to any clubs or anything? It'd also be an opportunity to bond with more people.
Don't clam up or get nervous around people because tey're less likely to like you! Even if you're not confident, you can still pretend you are and you'll make friends, then you won't feel the need to pretend anymore! It worked for me =]
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reader, Harriet-Jayne +, writes (4 January 2009):
 I agree, socialising is key! You need to get out to forget your issues with these things, and going out will also introduce you to a bigger picture and show you not everything is about girls and sex and that you have years and years to find such happiness.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (4 January 2009):
i dont think its confidence your lacking its seeing the positives of life. if you stick with the attitude you have it wont get better, nobody can force you its up to you and you only to make choices and changes to benefit yourself. your still young! all that stuff you metioned is included in your future dont waste your life worrying about what you dont have right now more what you can have- when you decide you want it. go get it x
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reader, shadytree +, writes (3 January 2009):
Listen, you're still young, you can be whatever you want in life and whoever you want. Appreciate your position and create goals for yourself, work towards achieving them. Sometimes you need to look at the bigger picture, where do you want to be in 10 years time? Its easier said than done but learn to realize that people who tease you are probably more insecure than you are.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 You definitely need to get out of the house. This kind of negative attitude about myself always happens when I've been holing myself up and not getting out a lot - socializing and remembering all the reasons why I don't suck, Heck, even if you're surrounded by a bunch of morons, you'll still feel a little better ("hey, I'm the smartest guy in this room!").
Like Roadman suggested, take up a new hobby or sport. Join a theater group - especially if you want to meet chicks - or get involved in different school activity.
Call up a friend you haven't seen in awhile. See if they want to hang out. Just try to keep positive and remember that you ARE awesome, even if you don't feel it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Well if your are 13-15, then you still have time to grow, and a lot of people wont have gfs or sex till theyre like 16/17/18 or older. I agree with roadman take up a sport or hobbies which you enjoy and you may be able to meet new people, and bulid your confidence. I would worry about sex or gfs yet, nor the size of your bits, they will grow in time.
All the best
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reader, roadman +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Take up a sport or hubby you enjoy!
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (3 January 2009):
 You must keep trying. Strive through life your hardest and do everything you can to make the best of it.
you should email me or im me or text me or somthing. I really want to help you and it will be easier if i can do it with your full attention
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