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female
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30-35,
*uffy
writes:Hey guys.Here's my question:I lived next door to this one girl and she had a boyfriend who used to talk to me.Then the girl moved and I never saw them again.Well,I was 9 at the time.It's been 5-6 years later and I finally found her boyfriend again.I became really close to him and his family and his friends.Now,he's been known as a man whore and a jerk and everything.Well,I grew a liking to him.Everyone who knew him and dated him told me that he was just gonna use me and hurt me and that he's a jerk.Well,I'm a nice person and I don't listen to those stupid rumors.I decided to get to know him myself.Then I find myself in love with him.I know I was in love with him and still am cause I would give all of my friends and family up for him and I would give my life up for him.So I get close to him and he had a girlfriend.I told him that I liked him and he was sweet about it and promised me he would never hurt me.So he was leading me on.He said that maybe when him and his girlfriend broke up that he would give me a chance.So they eventually broke up and I was still close to him and his friends and family and they all loved me and I loved all of them.So he starts flirting with me and eventually he got me to have sex with him.Now,he's drop dead gorgeous to me and he was so sweet and understanding and he was there for me when I really needed him and I was so dedicated to him that I snuck out and got in trouble every night just to see him and be with him.Well,after we had sex,everything changed.He actually changed awhile before that and he started getting a little bit bitchy.But I didn't even care cause I loved him so much.Well,we stopped talking for a bit and then my friend started talking to him.He told her that he was just nice to me and hooked up with me.When I figured that out I was so heartbroken and just miserable.I messaged him and went off on him and he wrote back being nice and at the end of the message he said P.S.-I'm sorry I wasn't more to you. Now that made me hurt even more cause he then said that he wanted nothing to do with me.Well,it's been awhile since that message.I still stare at his pictures and think of him constantly and I hate myself for it.We even had nicknames for each other.Honestly,even after all that happened,I would still take him back if he came back to me.So my question is,Why am I still in love with him even though he hurt me so badly and made me hate life? Why would I take him back when I'm so disgusted?Is it bad that I still love him and would take him back?Please help meI've tried everything to get over him and nothing works:(Love always,Muffy33------[Mod note: Thank you for sending your question to Dear Cupid. In the future, could you make it easier for the moderators and the readers by breaking down into paragraphs - thus making it more "reader friendly" as we have done this for you]
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 thats the problem hun your in love with a side of him that only you saw, you never really knew the other side of him until it was over.people told you and you didn't listen he jus had what he wanted and that was it he cast you aside and will now leech onto someone else and do the exact same thing.you loved the kind and warming side of him which he was to get you into bed with him and you still just see it as that kind loving side when he's clearly got a nasty side to him.i know it's difficult to get over something like that but you just really have to try hard to find someone you know will be nice and kind ALL the time to you.don't lower yourself for him i mean you gave EVERYTHING to him and for what?he doesn't even want to know you now.he is as your friends said a man whore.he butters girls up get what he wants and away he goes onto the next victim you should feel sorry for him in a way because he'll never find someione like that and settle down because no-one will want to know someone like that.think yourself lucky that you got out of it but remember you're just in love with a side of him that's clearly not him.Chin up hun!
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