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writes:I've been casually dating this guy for about eight months. We have not been exclusive. I'm going thru a divorce and he had just broken up with his girlfriend when we first started hanging out. We have talked almost everyday since the beginning, though there were periods of time that we weren't intimate. During those times he spend time with his ex which I was aware of....I know it took him awhile to get closure and I understand how it can take time. About two months ago, he found out that she had been cheating on him while they were still together. He talked openly to me about it and said he finally found the closure he needed. This isn't what bothers me. I know we met at a transition time in both of our lives. What bothers me is how intense my feelings for him are. He knows how I feel. I've never felt so strongly for anyone before. Over the past month or so...he's been different to me. He calls me more often than ever and has been using the pet name "love" when we talk. He even told me that he loves me when we were having sex. I just need some advice on what to do. I don't have many people I can talk to about this. I need to know whether to just go with the flow and see what happens or if it looks like time to talk to him about us. I chicken out every time I try to talk to him and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Darity. :)
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reader, Darity +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Do you want to be exclusive is the question? Do you feel you are ready for this after a divorce? If so, then I would definatley talk to him and see what he is thinking. He maybe is ready for a commitment now that he found closure in his last relationship.
I am always a type away if you need someone to talk to.
--Darity
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for responding just wondering but I never said I have children....I don't....that confused me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry....i wasn't too clear. The problem is that there hasn't been any talk between us on whether we are exclusive and I'm afraid to bring it up. I'm afraid he isn't ready or doesn't want to be. I just don't know why he would start acting and talking like he is if he didn't want more.
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reader, Darity +, writes (17 April 2009):
So what is the problem here? I guess I don't understand, you have strong feelings for this man and now he is showing the same for you and thats a problem? Maybe I just didn't understand the question. I say if you love him then what is wrong with him calling more often and calling you Love? Are you exclusive now, or is that the problem? I would love to help you, but I need more info.--Darity
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