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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hey,I get the impression that a bunch of my friends back home are talking behind my back. I feel kind of betrayed by it actually, and am wondering what to do about it (or even if I should bother to do anything about it). I guess I thought that, nearing 30, these kind of things wouldn't happen anymore!A girl who was (I thought) a good friend moved back to our hometown. She had burned bridges with a number of people there when she left before (she broke up with her boyfriend, and most people sided with him).I introduced her to some of my friends, one of whom she didn’t really like before. Now I feel like she kind of moved right on in. She started dating one of them right away, and then set up a guy who I had been involved with briefly (things were still unsettled between us at the time) with a girl who disliked me enough to make a hate page about me 5 years ago. She also may have been stirring the pot before that (she may have discouraged him from keeping in touch with me before she set him up with her friend/my non-friend).Since I don’t live there right now, I’m not really caught up in things, but it still makes me sad that I don’t feel I can trust my friends back home. I’m also not so happy that a guy who I was trying to sort things out with is now involved with a girl who I do not get along with.I’ve also noticed that the people in that group of friends are not contacting me as much as they used to.That said, I don’t really think there is much I can do. My life away from that town is going very well, I have supportive friends here, a great job in my field, and a new boyfriend who is very sweet to me. Maybe I should just focus on the great things I have here, and let people in my home town sort themselves out?Or am I being a wuss about this, and should I confront them?
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