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writes:hiya well ive been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years now and we have a 7 month old daughter the thing is i feel like im beginning to hate him he hasnt done anything wrong but i just dont like him and its making me stressed out just looking at him makes me angry but the thing is ive kicked him out of our house twice but i keep begging him to come back coz i miss him n its not fair what im doing to him my heads messed up please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Oh My God!!! I know exactly how you feel. I have days where i love the bones off my fella then i have other days where i feel so unhappy and wonder what the hell i am doing with him and feel hate towards him.
I couldnt decide weather the "hate" was me getting confused with missing him. It makes me feel so confused i know he doesnt deserve it infact i know he is tired of it and will soon leave me for good if i keep up with the lovey then unlovey. When i have been with him recently i have felt such love but now im alone at my house i feel like i dont like him...WHY?!
Arrr is driving me mad and i totally know how you feel. If you do find a reason or fix please let me know i wish you all the best with it
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 October 2009):
Is he helping enough with the baby? Having a baby is a big change, and it sounds like the birth is related to your feelings. I think you need to perhaps send your baby away with relatives for the day and have a talk, just you two, about what is happening.
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reader, SweetCheeks. +, writes (10 October 2009):
I feel Same Sometimes Must Be A women Thing LOLx
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 Wow! Why do you hate him?
Have you ever tried to figure out what it is that you don't like about him, so much that you "hate" him? It seems when he's gone, you want him back. So there's something you love about him too.
He must think you're on an emotional roller coaster. I feel bad for him.
Okay the possible solution for you and him:
Try sitting down together, maybe have the daughter looked after by some friends or family so you have some quiet time together. Talk about the things he does to annoy you. That's what it sounds like from what you said, without being specific. It may be annoying habits, the way he dresses, him sitting their rotting on the chair watching TV. Whatever it is that bothers you, try and find out "why" and "what" not necessarily in that order.
Then try and figure out why you are suddenly bothered by all of this. Is it related to the birth of the baby? Is the baby keeping you up at night or is he not helping enough with the child?
It seems like you're partly lumping him in with the baby, and then kicking him out like a teenager going off to school.
Its hard to read this one without details, but whatever it is about him that's bugging you, maybe you need to put a finger on it.
In either event, if you keep abusing the man he's going to run off some day and not come back.
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