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writes:i need some advice about what to do..i'm really hurt...every time i think of him i get this weird feeling in my stomache..and i feel like crying..like idk why i even care but i do..i was really into this guy:(I met this guy last year during the summer. Actually he added me on facebook..but he went to my school, so i added him. And we just chatted until school started. We've had a good relationship, we were good friends..i am very attracted to him and idk we were more than friends but then we weren't...We would flirt ALOT...anyways junior year ended and during the summer he did lots of stupid things. He added my cousin on facebook and told me she was cute. He would talk to her alot..and it really hurt me because i felt like i wasn't good enough. he then added my friend and talked very badly with her..like about sex and stuff...my friend sent me the convo..that really hurt me too..he deleted me off facebook after i confronted him about it..but he added me later and i accepted..but i actually ignored him for the rest of the summer..but then he IMed me and we started talking again..and then school started..and i tried to keep my distance from him..but it was very hard because he was trying to get my attention..so we started chatting again every day with eachother and flrting at school..and then one dayy he added another one of my friends on facebook again..and i got upset and told him he needs to stop and he deleted me off facebook AGAIN..and then we ignored eachother for a week. But eventually i went up to him and talked to him and we came to the conclusion we wouldn't let our friends get between our relationship. He actually told me he hated all my friends..and that he was the only good friend i made. He sent me a friend request on facebook and i accepted.anyways we started talking again and everything was going well until one day..this girl added me on facebook and i accepted her cuz she went to my school and she was the same ethnicity as me. We started talking and then she told me that she like the same guy i liked. She knew him before me and she told me that i would never know him like she knew him. She had been ignoring him for the past year because i guess they got in a argument. Well she told me she was jealous of me. I told her i don't know what to do. But she asked me if we were in a realtionship yet and i said not yet..but i was planning on it soon. The next mornning at school i was going over to talk to him and i saw her there talking to him..and i just went to go say hi to him. The other girl just stood there with her arms crossed and like ignoring me. That night i talked to him on AIM and everything was goood but later that night he deleted me of facebook AGAIN for the third time...and i don't know whyI just ignored him for 3 days. But then i was like this is stupid. So i put my dignity aside and i added him on facebook but he blocked me. i also found out i'm blocked on AIM...i know i'm blocked off facebook because i see that he comments on other people's walls. He comments on that other girls wall.Oh and that Girl hates me..i haven't even done anything to her..i don't even talk to her..but she's talking behind my back..and telling people i'm jealous of her.I'm so hurt..i feel used..this boy was a real close friend. I put so much time and effort in the relationship. I just feel confused. He tells me he wants me but then pushes me away...Everything was going so well last week..before this girl cam into the picture. I don't know it just bothers me knowing that he's blocked me. I feel like i'm not good enough. I feel horrible. I just hate that i'm letting someone do this to me. I tried ignoring i just can't. I just want to up to him and tell him I hate him and that he is a jerk.i just feel like that will make me feel better him knowing that..but i don't know...what do you guys think i should do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 October 2009):
He's playing with you and it's working. Have nothing to do with him and stay really strong. He's not worth your time and you know it.
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reader, yourenotsorry +, writes (16 October 2009):
yourenotsorry is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay..well i ignored him..but the other day at school he saw me..and like tried to hug me..and i pusehd him away..told him to i hate him..and to just leave me alone...i was like u blocked me off everything..and he was all like no i never get on..he was lying to face right there..so i just walked away..and then he followed me and hugged me from behind..and gave me a kiss on the cheek...which really upset me because he's just so confusing..i looked at him he said bye i'll ttyl tonight..he left..and later that night he added me on facebook again..and i was like okay this time its going to be different...i'll add him but i won't talk to him..but he talked to me facebook chat that night but it was only like for 2 minutes then he all of sudden left..and tonight i wrote something on his wall and he didn't respond back and i tried talking to him on facebook chat..and he ignored me..i'm just like UGHHHH..wat the hell is wrong with him..he's so mean... he posted comments on other people's wall but just ignored me..i knew he was online:(..why does he send mix messages..what is wrong with him?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 October 2009):
Not worth it at all. If you go upto him and tell him he's a jerk, the other girl will be able to say that you're jealous and he'll smirk even more. Don't even give this guy another though. You're much better than that. Don't talk to him or anything. Don't give him or that girl anything that they can gossip or laugh about. He may even want you to go upto him and say it just for kicks. Don't waste your time, he won't care one bit. Just ignore him.
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reader, yourenotsorry +, writes (10 October 2009):
yourenotsorry is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you:]..so you don't think i should go tell him that he's a jerk and that i hate him?..just ignore him?..idk i just feel like since i added him and he rejected/blocked me..he thinks he's the one that rejected me and feels good...i just want him to know that i seriously hate him and that he's a jerk..but do you think ignoring him will get the point throught?..sorry if i'm asking the same question over and over again..you're help is appreciated:)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 October 2009):
Well, I can get rid of all the confusion. This guy has used you and isn't interested in you at all. However, it's not that you're not good enough, it's that HE's not good enough. A good guy doens't do what he's done. He's not good enough for yoou at all. So don't ever speak to him, waste your time checking up on him, contact him or take messages or anything like that again. You are better than that and deserve more than that. And I hope you know it. this guy has treated you badly. Don't think it's yoour fault. He's just not good enough at all. Let him have the other girl, he's probably using her too. Realize that you're better, spend some time healing yoursself and find a better guy.
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