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writes:I don't know why but I'm in my late 20's and just lack the motivation to do anything. I find everything boring. I've never had a GF and couldn't be bothered, I've never had sex because it feels like too much hard work to bother with. I feel tired all the time. I just want to sleep and play console games. Everything is boring and life is pointless. I've tried antidepressants and they do nothing.I don't think I'm depressed but I think I may have schizoid personality disorder. I usually act like someone with this but occasionally I do get emotions and act like I feel alone once every couple of weeks in a year. Does anybody understand this and do I need help? At times I felt like killing myself because I was bored, that's why I ask.
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reader, RaPhiCK  +, writes (29 May 2010):
I do understand how you feel, because I felt the same way too, I wanted to have a partner but thinking of it is a waste of money for me, I just wanted to relax all the time, can you please help me too? I just don't have the guts to do such things like getting a partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): I actually thought of schizoid personality disorder at first too! Having moments of emotions and feelings doesnt mean you are not schizoid, because what counts is that the emotionless state is what you genuinely are. You spoke more of boredom and lack of motivation though, and not so much about lack of feelings. But, for a schizoid, the lack of feelings is not a problem as they naturally dont know any other way to be and can not see a real connection between being bored for example, and the fact that they can rarely engage in anything because of the lack of feelings. I hope that made sense. But only a professional can give you a diagnosis. I was schizoid as a child and I could not consider my lack of emotion as a factor, I only knew I was different because I could care less about anything. I also had no interest in meeting other children or joining any activities, but I must say I wasnt bored. Perhaps because you are older now and you see and know more about whar is "expected" as an adult. And you compare your life more with the lives of others and know that something is off and different?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): I was the same for ages, my life completely lacked direction and I had no motivation, it doesn't help that we live in Ireland, possibly the most boring country on the planet unless you like castles and drinking.
The way I got out of it was to find direction and for me that was returning to college as a mature student, for me my apathy and depression were linked to the fact I was wallowing on the dole for so long. You need to get busy and start doing things even if it seems like too much work, you need to start off small though and set short term goals.
For me it was a minor computer course, it was only 4 weeks in duration but it was not only something to do but it was a goal to obtain (one that was self beneficial) but it was also a way to interact with strangers and see if I was actually able to achieve something. I became addicted with being challenged and being out and working at improving myself, hence why I returned to college.
As for the whole depression/schizoid thing, no need to self diagnose on this one, like me there's probably nothing more wrong with you than your inactivity and seclusion, and probably the fact you have to listen to dumbass 12 year old Americans (no offence) all day on xbox live.
Inactivity breeds boredom and apathy and seclusion breeds lonliness, so to rid your yourself of these negative attributes and get out of this rut, just become active and socialize (gym, college, go out and be with friends more) give it a try and in a while you'll be fine again.
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reader, Davethegamer  +, writes (25 December 2009):
damn i'd almost wanna say i feel how you do verbatim just with a few twists here and there. keep trying to get that help, and if the meds work find out somthing to wake up or spend energy on, because i love 360 and ps3, but i used to be active, and exercise and do nitro r/c and other things that i cant think of atm. Cuz being active releases hormones that give u a natural high. im in a big dilema at this point in my life and i NEED to change and get help so i can save what "life" I have left. i hope u get to a better look on life and manage ur gaming if thats a issue at all too.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (25 December 2009):
 Luck of motivation can easily turn into depression if you are a weak character. Passing 30 I find myself a lot less motivated than 6-8 years ago but I know this situation is not mentally and physically healthy so I keep fighting it. Throughout this process and a lot of perseverance I eventually found things I enjoy doing, small unimportant things that give me strength to carry on. For instance I go cycling in the park while listening to my music, I learned a music instrument, I read literature and other. But it's different for every individual. Me, for instance, I tried the console game thing and didn't work, I found it waste of time. I guess, to answer the second part of your question, only you can help you to figure out some things to motivate you. It's not easy but just keep trying new things. Best of luck bro!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 December 2009):
I do understand and yes you do need help. Though I never found things boring, I often found (and sometimes still do find) a lot of things entirely meaningless. It is a form or depression, but rather than take tablets, you have to look back over your life and work out why you're hiding emotions. The only way to do that is to see a counsellor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): you must make an effort to stop playing console games and go out ...the more you sleep, the more tired you're going to feel and then lethargy creeps in. Why don't you go to travel a bit? get out of your comfort zone (it requires a lot of effort I know) but in the long run it will do you good. work on yourself and forget about relationships for now. just work on improving your life and making yourself happy. you're still young, relationships will come later.
Good Luck!
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reader, klc5252 +, writes (25 December 2009):
yes you need help. im sorry but it is not normal to feel life is pointless. never had sex because its to much work to bother with? i have to say ive never hear that before. you feel like killing yourself at times? you need to talk to someone. your feeling are not normal, please get help
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reader, jerrel +, writes (25 December 2009):
 i know exactly what your saying bro, i used to be like that,. not give a shit about myself, not shower, not want to see light from out side, the works,but ive found that the only thing that fixxed me was the glimmer of a thought that i could get a girl friend(which at the time seemed pointless) and i got out of the habbit, it is fixable, but usauly only under the right circumstances, and only if you try.
i know its a bother, but you should try, first step is brushing your teeth, next you get friends, then a girlfriend, and so on, and then life is pretty sweet
hope i helped dude, have fun finding your meaning in life =)
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