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writes:Hi, not sure if i,m reading too much into my boyfriends comments and could do with other peoples opinions. We have been with each other for 2 years very happy and in love. He is always complimenting me and telling me he loves me. A few times now, in a joking manner he has complimented a good friend of mine that her breasts look good in certain tops, and has made certain references to us having a threesome. It is said in front of me and not behind my back and i am very sure it is just banter, dont think he would ever cheat or anything like that. So why does it make me feel a pang of jealousy? Not sure if i should bother talking to him about it or just let it go?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 I don't blame you for feeling put out. Your boyfriend has been quite rude to both you and your friend.
He's not paying her innocent compliments and he isn't joking about a threesome (he doesn't joke about having sex with another man does he?). He's testing the waters.
To comment on a woman's breasts ONCE is very forward and in very poor taste. He's done it several times.
The other day a young man wrote in about his girlfriend asking for an MFM threesome with one of his friends. After 5 years of being very much in love (or so he thought) he was heartbroken. After a day or so of soul searching he decided to kick her to the curb.
So, no you're not over reacting or reading more into it than there is.
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reader, jinxx +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Well, I think if it bothers you it is worth talking to him about it. I believe I'd feel a bit jealous as well if my boyfriend were saying these things about a friend of mine, even if it were a joke. I feel it's inappropriate, but that is just my take and maybe you are comfortable with it for the most part, and that's fine.
I think if it bothers you enough to want to post this question here, it does warrant a discussion. If you don't feel too strongly about it, just let him know that it does bother you a bit, and I'm sure he will understand where you're coming from and stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2012): If I were you, I would have a word. Just explain what you do and dont find appropriate. He is obviously eyeing up her boobs and doesnt mind telling her they look good. A sneaky peek is one thing, he is human after all. But TELLING her her breasts look good? Hmm, think that would already be crossing a line for me. How would he feel if you remarked to one of his friends that his genitals looked good in certain tight jeans? Get where Im heading? Dont think he would approve, do you?
And making hints about threesomes. Again crossing a boundary. He is telling her he finds her attractive AND he is telling her he is mentally entertaining the idea of sleeping with her. She is your friend and should be able to appreciate that this type of talk is starting to make you feel slightly uncomfortable. For that reason alone, she should not encourage him. This kind of `banter` has a habit of getting out of hand sometimes. Well, quite often in fact. Read some of the questions here!
Best lay down a few house rules now and nip Casanova in the bud before his `banter` causes any real problems.
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reader, HappyPlace +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Is he like this with everyone or just your friend? Your bf is behaving in a crass manner, to compliment your friends breasts and talking about a threesome. It sounds to me like he very much wants this to happen and is testing the water. How does your friend react to this? I have a friend that often comes around and for whatever reason, she wears low cut tops and is forever bending over so we all get an eyeful. If my partner complimented her on her breasts, he would get a clonk over the head. He looks away and we have a good giggle about it afterwards. Your bf is overstepping a boundary for sure and you must call him up on it.
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