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anonymous
writes:My boyfreind has been away for some time now,we do comunicate ,chat and get naughty on the phone(dirty).I am a virgin and he has made it clear that when he comes back his going to f*** me,now mi feel am not ready for sex,hw do i make undertand inspite of my cool response to getting naughty on the phone
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): Stop teasing the poor guy, tell him you are not mature enough for sex yet and stop sending him dirty texts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 you must tell him you are not ready
and you must STOP teasing him on the phone...
if you can't walk the walk don't talk the talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2012): Just make it clear to him that it's not going to happen. OP by not telling him that beforehand you're now technically a tease and no one likes tease if they're not going to follow through at some stage.
Would you tell a kid on a hot day that you're going to buy him ice cream? Tell the kid that ice cream is so lovely, and it's so hot out that ice cream would be really nice and then not buy that kid ice cream? You wouldn't do that because teasing that kid would be cruel. teasing a guy you're dating by giving the impression that you're very sexual is kind of cruel.
Of course he has no right to demand it and of course you can get sexy on the phone but only if you've up front with him about the whole sex deal. Tell him, but don't expect him to react too nicely about it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Tell him you aren't ready and honestly, stop teasing with the phone sex. It's all fun and games til REALITY sets in.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (19 June 2012):
Your boyfriend does not have the right to decide when he’ll have sex with you, you should not have sex until you’re ready. The only thing that you can do is to tell him that you’re not ready and do not want to have sex yet. There’s a big difference between being dirty on the phone and actually having sex. Explain to him what you are willing to accept, and what you’re not. If he can’t accept your decision and wait until you’re both ready, walk away.
I wish you all the very best.
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