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writes:ok i was talking to this guy trevor (i like him alot) and my current boy freind (jerid) b 4 we satrted dating and then jarid asked me out but i was trying to get trevor to ask me out so finnaly i just said yes to jarid and then trevor asked me out i don't want to end it with jarrid cuz we have a great relation ship but i like trevor alot to i need help with wut to do and a nother questin i want to know is why guys like you and want to date you when u are taken? Reply to this Question
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reader, Rajesh Nair  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 My advice to you would be to not to spoil a great relationship which you share with Jerid, by going out with Trevor. You may risk loosing out on everything you have right now. As for Trevor, you can tell him clearly that you are committed towards your relationship with Jerid, and that you would be more than glad to be a good friend to him.
In any case, keep your relationship with Trevor absolutely transparent to Jerid. This would help Jerid trust you, in case anything goes out of hand.
As for your question, you cannot really generalize the reason for a behavior. You can have two ways of looking at it. If a guy asks you out even when he knows you are taken: 1) He knows that you love him too and he wants to make sure that he doesn't loose out on you, just because he couldn't muster up the courage to ask you out earlier. He may just be riding his luck, to have you in his life again.
2) On the other hand, it may also clearly indicate a lack of respect towards you and your commitments from his side. This person may just be solely concerned with what he wants to have in his life.
You decide, which one among the two seems more probable. In both the cases, you can never be sure that Trevor would love you as much as Jerid does. Never loose out on a relationship which you already trust and cherish. :)
All the best!!!
Cheers. :)
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 yeah i've found that hun!
it's weird it's like you like these guys they show no interest then BAM! you get with someone the feelings pour out.
but don't end it with this Jarid i mean he clearly likes you he asked you out.
Trevour clearly knew you liked him and loved the attention but once you end it with Jarid he'll go back to being cold.
it happend to me.
i was with a guy this guy i liked spilt out his feelings saying if i wasn't with this guy he'd ask me out anyways me and this guy ended up splitting i told him and he said he didn't see me in that way!
i was like EUGH!
so he lost out he lied really.
it's weird they know you're into them then when you lose interest they decide they then want you in anyway they can to be after them.
strange i know.
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