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41-50,
*ouvelle32
writes:I recently had a guy (ex-fiance) come back after 3 f'ing years telling me what a loser he was for letting me go, that the whole break up was his fault and I was the girl of his dreams.. begging me to marry him, he totally had to let go of all his pride to do that and that's respectable, but now I feel it is TOO late. Which leads me to wonder, why is that guys?? Why do you only realize what you had after the girl has already moved on? At the time I loved him more than anything and he left me in a way that was really hurtful. I wasted months and months of my life after he left me...(i couldn't help it) wishing he would tell me what he waited 3 years to say - and by the time he did it didn't matter. So why do guys do this? I have to wonder if guys are able to put their love feelings on the back burner because they are afraid of commitment and so they move on to the next girl only to realize later that they made a mistake. Whenever I get out of a realationship, I grieve a lot and it takes me a while to get over, but once I am done, I'm done. This is not the first time I have had someone come back like this, so I am just wondering. Is it normal for guys to repress their feelings because they are scared and then they come back later?? I have had several girlfriends whom this has happened to as well and I don't get it.
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (1 November 2010):
Sometimes they just need a good kick up the backside to see what they have.
In my humble expericene this applies to both sexs....has happened to me recently with an Ex
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I dont think any girl will truely understand a guy. Not all guys are like this though so dont lose hope that all of the male population is like this because they arent, i think with this guy it was just a case that he was not ready to settle down and he finished with you only to realise later that you were the one he wanted to be with and he was ready then to settle down, but he has learned his lesson now by realising that he has lost you and the next women he falls for he wont be quick to let her go, sometimes things like this needs to happen in life to make us realise who we are, he obviously was just not ready for commitment.
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