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writes:Why do guys cheat on their girlfriends! I just found out that a guy I had met a few times and who made it obvious liked me had kissed me when he had a girlfriend of a year or more. To make it worse he had been out with her that night and she had gone home. He has got in touch with me again but I know he is still with her. I am really angry about it but don't know what to do. Should I tell him I know or just ignore him? I'm also angry as I did like him a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone, thanks for replying to me and giving me some good advice. I'm going to stay well clear of him and not reply to him getting touch. MarieClaire, I didn't know he had a girlfriend until very recently, and I wouldn't have kissed him if I did, that's what's making me angry, I think it's a horrible way to treat someone and I'm also shocked as I hadn't thought he was like that. Shows that you can't tell what people are really like.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 April 2010):
For the same reason that women cheat on their boyfriends. Certain needs are not being met, and rather than have the nerve to be honest, they play everyone. I should also say that the needs of the person may not be healthy or right, don't think you are in the wrong. But basically cheating occurs because needs are not being met.
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reader, Inlovee:( +, writes (12 April 2010):
it depends really
maybe the guy isnt feeling satisfied with his girlfriend, he has emotional issues, maybe its the girl leading him on, and lets face it men arent as smart as women and know when something is so wrong to stop what they are doing, or maybe hes a complete idiot and just thinks he can cheat cos he can, there are so many different reasons, everyones different, personally i think if a guy cheats on you, there not worth the time of day, even if it was just a kiss, it is so out of order and taking you for a mug, argh it gets me so angry lol.
but yeah have a talk with them and see whats going thru their heads but if they dont sound like they should be given a second chance, he is not worth it, LEAVE HIMM!! your worth sooooo much more than that... DONT BE LIKE CHERYL COLE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Sex drive in animals comes from the instinctive desire to spread one's own genes. In its purest form, for men, this means inseminating as many young women with good genes as possible. And for women, it means being inseminated by men with the means to protect their mates and offspring.
Of course, we have conflicting desires, such as the desire to delay childbearing, etc. Nevertheless, the will to spread genes is the cause of pretty much all sexual behavior. This guy wants the chance to get with you while keeping his current girl, and the risk of losing his current girl by being honest about it outweighs, in his judgment, the risk of feeling bad for going behind her back, or yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Well it all depends and on the person really. Maybe he's just not happy with his girlfriend, but doesn't want to finish with her so he's just messing her about behind her back. Maybe they were having a really bad rough patch at the time? She may have done the same to him and he's getting her back.
OR just the pure fact he's a nasty, lieing, player who just gets alot of fun out of kissing other women behind his girlfriends back (some men get off on the fact it's behind their back) and they're getting alot of women at the same time.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 For the same reason that women cheat.
Their emotional needs (whether they be healthy or not) are not being fully met in the relationships they are in, and they do not consider structuring open relationships based on honestly as an option.
-Frank Kermit
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