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writes:Why do guys ask for our numbers and then not call? I am alone in a new city and am definitly open to meeting people. I get approached all the time. Someone even pulled me over to talk to me and get my number when I was driving to work, totally unsolicited but then never called. They rarely actually call. Why is that?Also, anyone have any advice on how to make same gender friends. I feel like I could meet guys, but I really need friends to hang out with. I am out of school and don't work in a career where I can meet many people my age. Reply to this Question
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reader, pipersam  +, writes (14 September 2008):
1. The way i see it is sometimes guys do to show of to other guys how many numbers they can get or like they are afraid to call.
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2. Guys do like to call and have just a conversation about what you do in your day or gossip tbh aslong as you can talk to girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): I was the original poster of the question. I don't really care if these guys call, not at all. I give out my number because I enjoy meeting new people, not for a romantic relationship. I do have a boyfriend. I just was hoping for a guy's perspective as to what the point of that would be. Like I said, this usually happens when I'm totally minding my own buisness and not looking for any attention. Just wanted to clarify the question.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 Why do you expect them to call? Guys don't like to gossip or babbler about the weather, clothes or what you do everyday.
They will only call if they have a need or emergency unlike girls who call and can talk for hours on nothing and everything.
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (5 February 2008):
Yeah, it's an ego-booster for the guys. I've heard stories of guys who have girlfriends who hit on girls and get their numbers, just to prove to themselves that they still can. If you're getting a lot of that attention, you're probably putting of a "lonely" vibe. My advice is to politely tell them you're not interested, or better yet, act all flattered, then tell them you have a boyfriend. Think about it, do you really want to hook up with some guy you met off the street? Also, keep in mind that if they're asking you, they're probably asking every girl who will give them the chance to ask. I know how lonely it can be in a new place, when you don't know many people, but you can do better than that. Think about the kinds of people you'd like to meet, and start going to places where they would be. Or better yet, just start engaging in activities that you like to do. Take a class, and just be friendly to people there. Go see live shows, and in time, you'll be a familiar face, and people will be friendly to you, just because they've seen you around so much. Attend art openings if you like art, sports events if you like sports.. you get the idea. Also, as a rule of thumb, coffee shops are great places to meet people, especially if they have a bar. Something about stools facing the barista, just makes for a good place for solo folks to hang out. People at coffee shops are pretty laid back, and often open to just chatting with new people. Again, once you become a familiar face anywhere, people will be more friendly. Personally, I'm pretty shy, but all these things have worked for me, at least when it comes to making acquaintances, and getting that "feel-good" social feeling once and awhile. Making the leap from "friendly" to "friends" is the part that has me stumped, haha.
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reader, mousey17 +, writes (5 February 2008):
 guys i think ask for your number to show of to there friend's. "oh look i got 6 mobile numbers tonight top tht" sort of thing is an ego booster for them but then you do have them guys who will ring but you have 50/50 chance of finding them.as for meeting people of your own agender i suggest chat sites maybe look for chat rooms in your area your from usa if i remember correctjus tuse the internet to find US chatrooms if no luck with that then i suggest just making friends with the guys you never no they might have gf's or female friends you could meet. if u need any more advise message mexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Because some guy's are dickheads. Plain and simple.Thankfully they are small but extremely vocal minority and were carved from the Rap videos they watched as kids with no parents to explain to them that women are not to be treated like toys there for our pleasure.If you want to meet any man of worth... stay away from nightclubs and pretty much anywhere that plays rap or hip-hop. Try joing appreciation groups, or perhaps sports.Flynn 24
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