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writes:This might take a while but I really need help, please answer if you can. I'm in my final year at school and I have always thought this guy in my year is really nice, gorgeous and a nice personality. I never even thought about me and him being together though because he's quite popular, and I'm not. But since we got a new seating plan in maths about 6 months ago he seems interested, I mean he flirts with me and can't stop touchin me, like poking me and stuff lol. And he was writing I'm my book things like your fit and I love you loads, just messing about. But then one lesson he asked for my msn and number so obviously I gave it him. That night he said do you fancy meeting up, so I said sure. We went to the park, it was dark and we were alone, then he came onto me and we kissed and cuddled for about 2 hours. I was so happy. But then after he text me askin if it was ok to keep it quiet cos he hadn't been single for long and didn't want his mates to call him a man slag. So I said ok. But the nxt day at school I saw him talking to his ex and her friend, so I didn't know what to think, and I don't know why I was jelous cos she's like 2 years below. But then the other day (now it's a few weeks later) he asked of I wanted to meet up again but I just told him exactly what I thought, I said I liked him but don't wanna be messed about and he just said him and that girl were just friends but he doesn't blame me. But now I really wanna be with him. He smiles, winks and raises his eyebrows at me at school buy I don't think he wants a relationship with me. Another thing is I think he's done everything but I havnt done anything. I wanna be with him but I don't know what he's thinkin. And I also talk to this guy thats 2 years older than me that has done everything and he's really nice too but only ever talks about sex. Why do lads only ever want sex!? What should I do??please helpppp x
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 LazyGuy's answer is great...and it's true.
Some guys only want sex, others want sex and a relationship. Your task is to not give in to the sex until you can weed out the 'sex-only' guys. You might get emotionally burned a few times but soon you'll know how to weed them out. Hold off on sex (and you're too young for sex anyway) and in time you will see who's interested in you and who's interested in sex.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (30 November 2009):
LazyGuy's answer is great...and it's true.
Some guys only want sex, others want sex and a relationship. Your task is to not give in to the sex until you can weed out the 'sex-only' guys. You might get emotionally burned a few times but soon you'll know how to weed them out. Hold off on sex (and you're too young for sex anyway) and in time you will see who's interested in you and who's interested in sex.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 Wrong question, why are girls interested in guys they know only want sex.
That is after all the problem you got to deal with.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 November 2009):
Well first of all, you're too young for sex, so don't give in (16 is the legal age of consent in britain). Secondly, I'm afraid that being a young man, his hormones will be all over the place for quite some time. Men do like sex, but we're not all totally obsessed with it all of the time. The trick is to make sure you get to know a guy enough to know what he really wants from you.
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (29 November 2009):
firstly you are still young and unfortunately this is the hardest time for love and realtionships. ok first point to tackle is the fact that he is hot and cold, if i was correct in reading this you guys hooked up then he didn't ask you to hook up again for another 2 weeks, this makes it sound a bit like a booty call, he wanted something to do that night so he called you. dont let this guy treat you like that, if he likes you and wants to get to know you better than he can make more of an effort than that, take you to the cinema, bowling anything and it should at least be in a weekly basis minimum. second thing to tackle - some guys give the impression they have done everything but that doesn't mean they have...and if he has then that doesn't mean you have to. if he puts pressure on you to do so then this will probably mean thats all he wants from you, he is young and unfortunately thats what most young men are trying to do. the last thing you want is to lose your vaginity and then he dumps you as he has what he wants, if he threatens to leave you because you wont have sex with him that that tells you thats exactly all he wants. but if he says he will wait then you are on to a winner and I have to say it is better to wait for someone who you respects you because to honest the first time you have sex it will be very painful but very special and you will want to have it with someone who will take it easy with you.lastly, he may have friends who are exs (and to be honest this would drive me insane to) but if you two end up in a relationship then you will have to accept this to start with, in time men tend to stop talking to ex's when they are with someone they really care about because they will start to realise it will drive you insane.lastly, you are young so try not to get caught up in everything and just enjoy your youth, you will date a lot of boys and then men before finding the one and along the way you will get your heart broken or you will break some hearts yourself but when your older you will start looking for the one. remember this and i hope it all works out for you.
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