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writes: Why do girls dump nice guys for bad boys? I mean its interesting when girls say that they want nice sensitive guys but they usually date all the bad boys and the nice guys are reserved as friends. And its not just insecure girls, but even church-going good girls who do it. Can someone please explain this to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): Thank god someone has FINALLY got it right and make that double because this time, it's actually not a woman who wrote it.
Dr. Pete certainly understands the REAL meaning of a nice guy. A spontaneous, free-spirited, assertive guy can also be "nice" too.
I love nice guys, but that doesn't mean I'd go for a doormat! As a very opinionated woman, I need someone to challenge me so I'd easily take a person with a mind of their own, thank-you very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): I am a sensitive bloke who listens and is reliable strong and dependable but yet all the women I know see me as a genuine Nice bloke but a friend not a Date-able bloke yet the come crying to me when mister date-able breaks their hearts. I'm 31 and still single without a relasionship in 9yrs and no hope of one in the future but yet I have at least 30 Ladys who know me well you keep telling me I'm the best catch they know but I'M NOT THEIR TYPE... Go Figure that one out????????
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reader, Yos  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 Women are torn between desiring the powerful alpha male (usually a 'bad boy'), who will likely father strong / powerful children, and a good provider (usually a 'nice guy'), who will provide and care for her children. That's what the biologists tell us.
Ideally you find both in the same man. Failing that, you have to make your choice. Each has its appeal, hence the dilemma.
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reader, Lia  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 Yes, there is something appealing about the bad boy. But let me let you in on a little secret - in real life it's not glamorous to be with a bad boy. They're often cheats, liars and trouble! I think girls might be attracted to that 'ideal' they have in their head of a bad boy.
The good news is, however, that girls still do like nice, sensitive guys. Really we do. We want a guy who treats us with respect, makes the effort to get to know our mother, is romantic and affectionate and lets us in on what he's feeling. Ask any girl and she'll say the same!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): Women don't usually choose bad guys over nice guys.
Women dump guys who don't exert their masculinity. This is the ability to take control when needed, make decisions and be confident in themselves and with their partner.
A lot of people confuse the difference between masculinity and "badness" when "nice" in this way actually means feminine, weak and insecure.
It is possible to be sensitive, caring and thoughtful yet still be masculine, in control and a "man".
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reader, tommy2k7 +, writes (5 April 2007):
 My ex is now going out with a guy who, as grls testfy, is a bad boy. However, he lives 3 hrs away, and he probably will cheat, but I don't want to get hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): the reason is we crave excitment,but it dont last forever,ive had the badboy thing and im currently engaged to a nice man,i would rather have a goodboy than a badboy relationship,makes life so much easier and stress free,so if you want the badboy thing and everything that goes with him hope your a strong person to deal with the highs and lows.
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