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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm married to a man, who I think dosent care for me at all. I met him on holiday 5 years ago. He's from Israel and I'm english. We had a real whirl wind holiday romance and I really fell for him in a big way.When he came to the uk the first time he only had a tourist visa but he stayed for a year living off me. Even though he could see the financial strain was killing me. I even ended up working for an escort agency for a while to pay the bills. I did'nt tell him about this, but I have more than a sneaking suspition that he knew. We got married 4 days before his visa ran out, but he did'nt propose, we got into an argument about it and it was a case of if I dont marry him I dont see him again, and I just was'nt ready to end the relationship, stupid me. I have'nt even got an engagement ring, and I paid for the whole wedding witch was a rubbish cheap registry office, that we went to on the bus. I even paid for the clothes he stood up in. 4 days after the wedding he had to return to Israel and he did'nt sort out his visa to return to the uk for nearly a year, basicaly because he was waiting for me to pay a lawyer and sort it all out. I went to stay over there with him for a couple of months, but I had to leave because he would'nt support me financialy any longer, not that he did anyways I could'nt even go to the shop and buy myself a bar of chocolate. Besides he said he did'nt want to settle down in Israel because he hates the place and with his passport he can't go anywere. So now he's back over here, for the first 4 months even with a work permit he could'nt be bothered to look for a job, and he just sat back and watched me go out working 4 16 hours a day. Now he's been working since february witch is good, but recently I was out of work for three weeks and he's threatening to throw me out on the street. he's even saying this now I'm back at work. I'm 32 and I just feel like I'v wasted the last 5 years of my life on a complete waste of space, who I think only stays with me for a british passport. What do you think.? Please help my head's in bits.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 He's not being respectful, he's been living off your resources and he is threatening to throw YOU out of the place just because you had three weeks of unemployment. What a chutzpan!
If you have any possibility to get rid of this guy, I suggest you take it. Get a divorce and if possible, see if he can have his British residency retracted.
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