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writes:Everytime I like a guy, he asks out another girl. And not just any girl, for the past 3 years, the 3 guys I've had crushes on have all asked out the SAME GIRL (and it's not me, fyi). The run down on THE GIRL: we DO NOT get along and haven't since 6th grade. I think she's totally rude and sarcastic and just has the worst personality. But, she loves being the center of attention, and she almost always is.Story 1:9th grade, I like Guy A. Nothing really happens until 10th grade, when we go to a dance together (as friends) and then start flirting and texting daily. I think we have a "thing." About a month into this "thing," out of nowhere, he asks out THE GIRL. I am really confused/devastated for a few weeks, and I finally get over him. (They went out for a few months).Story 2:The end of 10th grade, I like Guy B, while Guy A and THE GIRL are still dating. We have a "thing" where we text/flirt a lot and junk. Guy A and THE GIRL break up. Within a month, Guy B asks her out (she turned him down). I am shocked and totally upset.Story 3:Beginning of 11th grade, I like Guy C. I really believe he likes me back. He seems really into me, yada yada yada. Someone else asked me to a school dance though, and I was sort of obligated to say yes. I learn later that Guy C is going to the dance with THE GIRL. Once again, I'm heartbroken.What's the deal?! Trust me, I'm not some weirdo who stalks guys and think they like me back when it's all just some delusion in my head. There are witnesses- my friends have often said in all 3 situations that they thought the particular guy liked me. How did it happen that they all ended up asking out THE GIRL? How is SHE snagging all my guys? What makes her so special and irresistable to guys- do they just love girls that love attention, because to me that just seems dumb. Am I doing something wrong?Also, THE GIRL isn't a complete slut and doesn't go out with every guy, so it's not like it's a common thing to date her.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Here's my theory, you have a "type." Certain things you look for in a guy. The guys you like also have a type. Unfortunately for you, this girl is their type. I'd suggest looking into commonalities between these guys as far as what attracted you to them and then maybe pick someone who is different for your next BF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Sometimes it's impossible to explain who gets the sexual attention and who does not. The obvious stuff like appearance and personality and popularity are part of the story but not all of it.
If it makes you feel any better I think girls are just as bad about all chasing the same few guys. Maybe even worse. Most guys all chase the same few girls at first but then they branch out to the other girls after approaching the first ones. But girls seem to keep on chasing the same few guys forever and compete with each other instead of moving on to other guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): It is taking you too longv to go frombfriends to something more. You didn't share first kisses with any of them
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 September 2010):
 This girl is bad luck! She must be the girl to date, center of attention, pretty, witty and puts out. The only thing I can think of that she's easy or gives great blow jobs. Or it's just a weird coincidence you're looking into too much. Honestly, I think it's because she puts out, is great in bed, or gives phenomenal blow jobs.
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