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writes:wy do adults always focus on the mistakes theri children do? why do they always get angry when we don't always agree with them? i know their looking out for us but isn't it a bit too suffocating? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Well I am more with Mandy than Kinky. On one level this is a complex question to answer because there are various reasons why...essentially it is to do with control and losing it which nobody likes feeling because a lack of control makes people feel insecure. As you are becoming more independant that is no doubt scaring your parents who are trying to protect you.
However, there does come a point where parents have to accept they are losing control and that is part of life and a necessary part of their childs life to be cut free; if they are not then they wont develop the skills needed to stand on their own two feet and in the long run is worse for them.
I am afraid I am not of the school of thought that older always equates to being wiser and having more experience doesnt always make somebody a better judge. People and especially people who are younger learn primarily through experience and denying experience is damaging.
In general I would advise you to try and communicate with your parents; tell them how you are feeling and that you need a gentler encouraging and guiding hand rather than a stern restrictive one. Try and work through issues with compromises if you can and you would hope, though not always expect, being adults they would realise the virtue of compromise.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Im an adult (well thats debatable actually) personally I dont focus on the mistakes my children make as its part of growing up and learning so if they do make them and they will, Just as I did and do. Then its all good learning hunny..Im just there to guide them..If they have a problem I will listen say what I feel if they choose not to listen to me and go and make another mistake well they are still learning eh!!!!!And so am I sweetheart..We are all different not all children are the same as not all parents are the same but it all comes down to the same thing..PROTECTING, Mostly our parents just want to protect us and keep us safe and do the right thing, But at the end of the day sweetheart we are all still learning to TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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