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writes:Im so tired of him thinking that he is the only one that has to go through things. Maybe it's time for him to start thinking about others rather than himself. It hurts when he denies my love. He believes that im cheating on him, which is surely not the case. I dont want to loose him, because you see, he is the best thing that ever happened to me. Im tired of pretending that everything he does is okay because it's not. I just want me and him to be happy, together. But how can I if he won't let me? He continues to push me away. It's sad to say but i don't think he needs me anymore. Our love is fading a way day by day. I just want to make things right. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Mandy is right. You have to grasp the nettle before you drift too far apart. Why does he think you are cheating?? Is there a specific reason or is it just general??
It seems to me that the problem here is poor communication on both sides. You need to sit down and create a relaxed mood and open up to each other. If he wont then you take the lead because it is obvious you have concerns too. You should find after that if it goes well that the feeling of drift goes away. The first part of your question makes it sound like you need to open up to him too. I am finding this a hard question to answer to be honest purely because we are a little low on the detail. What are you/him going through??
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Hi Sweetheart
I read you post twice and thought if only you showed this to your b/f it speaks volumes..You have to speak with him hunny sometimes when we feel we are loosing someone the truth is the only way they will understand Its not the way it seems. He sounds very insecure love if as you say he has been through alot and can only concentrate on himelf and his problems also believing you are cheating when clearly you are very much inlove its hurtfull for you, And he needs to sit and listen otherwise he may push you away and then he will be sorry..Its not that he doesnt need you its that he is scared by the sounds of things so you really have to talk and talk about everything sweetheart. I wouldnt be scared to do this as ok the truth may hurt sometimes, But if he knows you understand and you to have had your fair share in life but you care so much about him then mabe this will give him food for thought. If he truely loves you and does not want to loose you he will listen hun TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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