A
female
age
30-35,
*romilias
writes:So I've just starting dating this guy, and we like each other its just we have trouble keeping interesting conversations alive.A lot of the time our conversations are quite dry and get driven straight into the ground followed by silence =/ We don't very often say sweet things to each other, unless its via text or some other form of media chat.we also have problems being physically affectionate, we hug, that's about it.So, any tips? ._.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 when you talk always start the conversation with Open questions and not with Closed questions. A closed question takes you no where. (yes or no answer)
An open question keeps it alive.
Example: Want to go to the Zoo?
Answer: yes or no
Example: Did you ever go to the Zoo
Answer: yes or no
Above is a closed question.
Versus
Example:
WHAT is your earliest memory of visiting the Zoo= they get to tell you more.
but never interrupt any answer mid sentence
However, when there is a long pause you can encourage the conversation with more open questions
Example: HOW did you feel about that?
Example: WHY did you decide to do that?
Example: WHAT made you try that strategy
Hope the above helps to get the conversation flowing
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