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*indy1
writes:Please please please could someone offer me an explanation for this? I am particularly interested in hearing a male perspective. Please.Why would a 40 year old man that I have just met, tell his best friend (also a good friend of mine) that he really likes me, was “up for taking me out”, ask lots of questions about me such as does she want children and ask his friend to give me his number and then disappear!I didn’t initially take his number but gave him mine. No phone call came. My mutual friend said that maybe he was feeling nervous about calling and that I should text him. I wouldn’t normally do this but I have known my friend for 20 years and he is completely trustworthy so I accepted his opinion on this. I knew this guy was going on holiday for a month in a few days time, so I text and said “have a good time – maybe we can meet up for a drink when you get back?” But no reply!It seems odd to me that someone would show so much interest in me and then not respond to me at all. I also think it’s a little rude to ignore me! He could at least have said thanks for your text but I’m not sue meeting up is a good idea and given me some kind of explanation. Why do men do this? The not knowing is really bugging me.
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reader, RosesAreRed86  +, writes (5 November 2009):
I find this topic pretty amusing because the females who have posted seem completely shocked that a man would ignore their texts or phone calls while this is the type of thing that women do to men ALL THE TIME.
Ask any guy in the world if this has ever happened to him and I'm willing to bet that no matter who he is, or how good looking, rich or cool he may be, it will have happened to him more times than he can even remember.
Do what I do and just get over it and move onto the next person. If someone isn't willing to respond to your texts or calls, they are not worth your time.
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reader, metalsman +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Hi Cindy1,
A bit of male perspective here...but first..god!!..why do blokes do this..i wonder myself sometime too. However, maybe there's a worry of him feeling nervous and perhaps running the risk of being rejected, you know sometimes for us guys the worry of being turned down by a nice woman is a greater concern, especially if he's a bit insecure or shy. I wouldn't tend to confront him if i were you, but perhaps give another one or two subtle hints about maybe your interest value in him also, if he doesn't respond to that then i'd consider looking elsewhere.
Us fella's tend to put you ladies high upon pedestals when we're interested, and have feelings towards you and he might be still wresting a bit with his own feelings, especially if he's had a recent failed relationship. Do you know if this might be the case, or perhaps someone you're not aware of lingering in the background?
Having said all that i (personally) do thing it was rude of him not to reply in some form to your text, i mean what has he to lose etc..
Anyway, best of luck...
Kind Regards
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Do you think he might have lost his phone? Could you get your mutual friend to find out why he did this???
Seems strange but that's men for you babes XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): I know exactly what you're going through! Been there, done that, and honestly don't have an answer for you because I'm still trying to figure it out myself! Why DO men approach, show interest, get your number, and then POOF?It's the not replying to messages (whether text or voice) that really bugs me. What's so difficult about being courteous? A short reply or "no thanks" would suffice, but no word at all? Well, like you say, that's just rude!Look at it this way, tho': at least you know early on that this dude is an inconsiderate ass and you shouldn't date him. His communication skills (or lack thereof) and basic manners now don't bode well for the future. Consider yourself lucky to know before you jump into that swimming pool, honey -- most folks don't see someone's true colors until they're in too deep and on the verge of drowning!My advice to you would be to ignore this chump. My guess is that he might finally send you a reply when he gets back from vacation next month...delete it. Send no reply.If he contacts you again, blow him off. Be rude. Give him every signal that you're no longer interested and move on.Makes ya wonder, tho': are guys like that rude to everyone, or do they just have a problem with women? Does he treat his mother, sister, ex-gf's, wives with the same dismissive attitude? Probably...
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