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writes:Why didnt he call me? A few months ago i was seeing someone i had known from my teens, we d always had a thing for each other and i hadn't seen this man for 15yrs. I had recently become single and as far as i knew he was single as he lived alone. He asked me out for old times sake and then after it became a regular thing. He had a son from a previous relationship and i have 2 children myself. We were in no way having a relationship and it was more sexual. I was happy with the arrangement and assumed he was as we were both consenting adults. This went on for almost 4 months. Then back in Jan he was going away on a lads skiing holiday, he said he would call me when he got back and never did, i bumped into him briefly and again he said he d call and didnt. I was reluctant to call him as i didnt want to seem desperate although i did really like him and it was more than just sex for me. I dont understand why he just blanked me out after we had this thing going, i could of understood if it had only been a few occasion. But we had history. Why did he take the cowards way out? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 March 2011):
I'm afraid there are really only three reasons for him having done this.
1 - He was only ever after sex, and once he had it he soon got tired and moved on.
2 - He was already with someone else and was cheating.
3 - When he went on that holiday, he met someone else and has been with them since.
Whatever the reason, you are right in saying that he took the coward's way out. And it's in moments like that, that you truly understand the person for who they are. All those things he said and did when you were with him were meaningless, because in the end he was just a liar and a coward. I'd say those are good enough reasons to accept this guy isn't good enough for you, and for you to then move on from him. Don't dwell upon someone like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): He didn't take the cowards way out b/c it was no relationship. You had a fling that ran its course so if you want more than that you have to get a boyfriend. Sex for a guy is independent of feelings or caring for someone. You didn't have a history, you just were shag buddies.
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