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writes:My bf and I have been living together for about 5 months now and I am so confused. I love him so much but I don't understand why sometimes he doesn't show that he cares. Sometimes he makes me feel so special and other times like I don't exist. He works out of town Alot so mostly i am home alone. Usually when he leaves i don't really hear from him at all until he comes home. He never tells me that he misses me hardly texts or calls. But this time is different in a good way. He has been away for almost 3 weeks this time (the longest time so far.) He picks up if i call, answers most texts, he even called me late the other night because i fell asleep while texting him and apologized for waking me and told me he just wanted to hear my voice. Could it be that he misses me even though he doesn't say it? Why can't he always be this way? When he is gone I miss him so much and I feel like he takes my heart with him. The thing is I have been considering ending it because im so lonely all the time and half the time even when he is home he acts like im invisible. Every time im so sure we are done he brings back the kind caring man that I love and gives me a little slice of hope and it makes me reconsider leaving. I guess i just need advice on whether to keep holding on or walk away. I can't keep up with his hot and cold act. I don't know which side to believe. He either cares or he doesn't it can't be both but that's how he makes me feel. I love him so much but i can't keep doing this. I need consistency. How do i make the man that i feel is my soul mate understand that this is driving me crazy and breaking my heart. What makes it even oose confusing is that he pushed for us to live together. This is what he wanted and now sometimes he acts like he couldn't care less. What to do?
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reader, Jovan  +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Maybe that's just how he rolls, if you know what i mean.
maybe he has some other problems that seems to be urgent, maybe problems at work, maybe his job is really demanding i dont know it could be lots of things. But if you really love him that much do NOT leave him until you have something you can stick to. Something that is obvious and without any doubt.
Good luck
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