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writes:I started talking to this guy that my sister hooked me up with. We talked a few times a week on the phone for about a month. We would talk anywhere from one to 4 hours! We finally hung out and I thought it went well. We got along and hung out for about 4 hours. He told me he wanted to hang out with me again and suggested things we could do. But we hung out on Sunday and I tried to call him Wednesday and Thursday night, but he never answered or called me back or texted or anything! It's now the following Sunday and I still haven't heard from him. The only thing I could think of is that he thinks I'm still in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend (because my ex says he is still in a relationship with me on Facebook and his page isn't private) or he's just not into me. Any advice? I was thinking about sending him a text today asking him how he is, or would that look to needy?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (19 August 2012):
 Did you leave a voicemail when you called those times? If so, don't text or call anymore most likely he got it and decided not to call back. If you didnt, I would send one final text. Just say you tried getting in touch with him on wednesday and thursday and wondering what's up. If there's no response then leave it be. It could be he didn't get the phone calls for whatever reason but he will pretty much always receive a text or a voicemail.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (19 August 2012):
 Call again it shows concern if anything not needyness or desperation you never know they may need that call to boost there day to hear your voice and see that you even cared enough to call or text they also might have wanted to contact you also but may not wanted to seem needy or desperate this seems to be the case.
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reader, BW123 +, writes (19 August 2012):
It sounds like you guys hit it off well... One thing that a lot of girls don't realize when they first meet someone is that the guy will do things that he doesn't normally do to try to appeal to the girl he likes. One of the things that they do is spend hours with you on the phone, every single night talking and talking, blah blah blah. Some people, particularly guys (but not all guys) don't really like talking on the phone but they do it anyway because it makes you happy. However, they can only do this for a limited amount of time before they want to get back to doing what they really like, whether that be working out, reading or simply doing nothing.
The most important thing for you to do at this point is NOT DO ANYTHING! Don't call or text,give him his space. He'll call you back. Don't be needy or over-analyze. Go do whatever it is that you like. Get a good book, go for a walk, work out, call up your friends and go out... He is not your be-all-end-all. He will call you eventually.
In the future, don't let your conversations on the phone go for this long. 20-30min tops. Give them space and they'll want you more and more... and you'll need them less and less...
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