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writes:o me and my boyfriend had the same exact dream, we both dreamed that he cheated on me.. why did we both have the same dream about him cheating on me? this isn't the first time ive had a dream about him cheating on me. its the third. ive been with him for 6 months and we had a thing for 10 months though. when we had a thing he did stuff with his ex after 4 months of having a thing but he was on e and drunk he tells me that he had to feelings when he did the didn't do oral or have sex. and im the one hes been with the longest and the only girl he hasn't cheated on.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 June 2010):
Because you're both as insecure as each other and he has cheated once before. Work harder as a couple. Also, be aware that if he's cheated on you (which he has), and the others, chances are he will do it again. think carefully about whether you want to be with this guy. Don't make excuses for him and his ex, such as him being drunk. If you had a thing going and he did something with his ex, then he cheated.
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reader, Sakuracherry  +, writes (5 June 2010):
Hi
I'm sorry to say that when he did stuff with his ex, that already is cheating. People may have different definitions of cheating eg. emotional bonding, kissing to sex. Being drunk and drugged doesn't excuse his behaviour. Even though it was a "thing" and you were not exclusive, it still hurts and worries you right? You have to let him know how you feel. And any good man will try to make you feel more secure.
How would he feel and react if the tables were turned and you did the same thing with another guy? Would he be okay about it?
I think the fact that you dreamt of it might be that your subconscious brain is telling you your fears. I think his behaviour is making you insecure and it coming up in your dreams. I am so sorry that this is happening to you.
From my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater. Every girl wants to be that special girl to tame a bad boy. But it only happens in movies because, a leopard cant change his spots. There is probably a one in a million chance. I have a classmate who married a bad boy, they have children together but he cant keep his hands and eyes off other girls when they are out in public. She can't leave because of the children but i can see that it is eating away at her and killing her self confidence. You dont want this! You don't need to always be worrying about what he is up to!
If you are both now in an exclusive relationship and he is faithful and he works hard to try to reassure you, until you feel more secure about your relationship, your dreams will probably not go away.
PS. every girl deserves to be loved and treated like a princess! there are many good boys out there who know how to make a girl feel good about herself and their relationship!
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