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writes:Why did my good friend sleep around?I have a friend who just broke up with her high school bf of 2.5years. He dumped her in her first week at college. He was an average looking guy at best she is beautiful.My question is why has she suddenly slept around she was so nice. Within 2 weeks of the break up she slept with a guy but reckons he took advantage of her..how does that happen?She then met another guy who's a bit of a womanizer and slept with him 1 month later. And justifies it with he "had got with babes before"Another month later she has just slept with the second guys best friend. 6 months on she is regretting all of these people and wishes she could take them back.I just don't understand why it happened in the first place? was she rebelling? She also said she didn't like any of them….?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 mr. Smith, people are different. Thats all there is to it. Both guys and ladies sleep around after a breakup to get their ex out of their system, or to feel free and enjoy being single (hence flirting and having no boundaries). Not all people do, you yourself haven't for example. And people don't even do it every time they get dumped either. When my first serious boyfriend and me split up I went out and had a new guy every week, for two reasons: I wanted sex, and I used it as a way to get over the break-up. However I've been dumped and have dumped since then, and didn't act out like that again. So it really depends on the person and where they are in their lives, how the breakup was, and how the relationship was.
As for women sleeping around and demanding respect? Yes, I don't see how that's any different from guys who sleep around and GET respect from other men just because of it. But thats not relevant to this question at all.
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reader, Mr. Smith  +, writes (17 January 2011):
the excuse about getting your "ex" out of your system is ridiculous... Ihave ronken up many times and never had to reduce my self to this level. Many people say it is a period of being a rebel but I do not agree... she was simply confused but this does not justify her not respecting her self. funny that women nowadays go "sleeping around" and then want men to treat them like queens and vlaue them for what they are....
just being honest something that many people in this website aren't
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reader, ssaarraahh +, writes (16 January 2011):
 maybe its cz she wanna have sex
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (16 January 2011):
some girls do this when there bf's dump them
i have heared this hapennes over and over and over
i personally believe it is not right at all
but it happens and usualy she well end this attitude in a while so you dont need to feel very bad about this
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reader, chigirl +, writes (16 January 2011):
It's quite common that after a breakup with someone you care for deeply, you go out and "rebel" I suppose you can call it. You sleep around to get the first person out of your system. To forget about your ex and how he/she hurt you. It happens often!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2011):
Well, either she wanted to have sex and that was it, or she was hurt because of her boyfriend and just had to go make a point. Given that she regrets it, I suspect that it was a spur of the moment thing that she did because she'd been dumped.
If she asks, just explain that she clearly in a bad place at the time and like people who feel bad, she did some things she regrets. Then tell her that it doesn't make her bad and that you're still her friend no matter what.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Maybe she just wanted to have sex...
And now that the horny urge is subsided she regrets not being more in control..
She is free and young, she can do what she wants, as long as its safe sex and isn't hurting anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Hey, she was free to do it. She didn't owe you anything.
You are free to never look at her quite the same way again no matter how regretful she is afterwards. You don't owe her anything.
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