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anonymous
writes:hi everyone my fwb who i have known for 7 months has just gone on holiday and not even told me i know hes not my boyfriend but i thought he would of told me i only found out cos i have text him twice in two weeks and heard nothing from him so i text him saying he is going to keep ignoring me then i wont text him ever again and he replied with 1 text saying im on holiday why do you think he didnt tell me we only live 30 seconds away from each other thank you
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Friends with benefits are situations where the "benefits" are mostly one-sided - the man gets to have free sex on demand with no strings attached. For a woman, if you enjoy sex for its own sake, and don't particularly care about having no other involvement, then fine.
I think in your case, he evidently - since it's "only" sex -feels he owes you nothing. That's why he didn't notify you beforehand that he was going on holiday. Upsetting for you? Sure. A good reason to think again as to whether you want to continue with him........or get into any other FWB......
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reader, Vanessa_Twinkle +, writes (19 August 2011):
Hey,
I think the best thing is ask him that, i mean know one will know the answer better than him, if he didnt he probably didnt think it was important or just didnt want to.
Talk to him and tell him how much it bothered you
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): I guess he didn't think you needed to know, as you say you have a FWB arrangement. It probably didn't enter his head.
Don't go getting too attached to him he's a single man and as free as you are.Get out and have some fun yourself you may even meet somebody who wants a relationship ........
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): Are you serious? Why do women get into this FWB situations and then not understand why the guy doesn't fall for them, or doesn't call them except when he wants sex, or doesn't text them....??
You've already answered your own question. He is NOT your boyfriend, you are not in a relationship, therefore he has no need to tell you anything about what he is doing or getting up to if he doesn't want to.
There'd be about 50 fewer questions a week about FWBs if people actually understood what they were getting themselves into in the first place.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (19 August 2011):
You're his FWB, not his girlfriend. In other words, why should he have to tell you? You are just someone he can have sex with when he needs it. You don't mean anything more to him than that. I guess you are a FWB without the benefit of an actual friendship.
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