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writes:i have a fuck buddy and i told him i thought as him as a friend and that i didnt know if i needed that cause friendship leads to relationship. then i relized he is not going to be here but couple more weeks and he will be out of the state and with his wife.we have been seeing each other for 11 weeks now and for the last couple weeks it seemed we where all ways together or he was asking to help me move or do something. i mean when we would get together we would talk and drink and have fun,then we would have very intense sex for couple hours. then after i told him i thought i was begining to be friends and that i trusted him and told him i didnt need to see him for little bit he just all the sudden turned off. he suggested that we shouldnt see each other that it would be the best for both of us. that is was all fun and to just leave it that way. i have tryed to talk to him and ask him why and to see if he would see me again but he wont talk and he tells me no. i dont know what i have done to make him not want to see me. he told me once that if he didnt like being around me then neither would "carlos" thats his name for his dick. what do i do what can i do. yes i have feelings for this guy but i think that it is just the good sex we have. i have never had sex so intense.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Unfortunately, as tennisstar states - FWB don't often lead to relationships.
Once you have establishment those set parameters - no commitment, no responsibility - just sex..
It is tough to convince the other party that now they should put time, effort and devotion into getting the same sex they are getting already without trying.
To add more difficulty, often a FWB is a relationship that isn't too much about actual friendship. Just an excuse for two people to be comfortable enough sexually where they feel they can satisfy their needs fully, and not feel like they are whoring at the bars every weekend. To take this type of relationship that essentially doesn't hold much intimate weight or substance is an uphill battle.
You didn't get to know each other well to begin with, and that set the tone for the relationship. Casual - effortless, disposable - and unfortunately that is its' fate.
Realistically though, any guy that considers his penis's feelings by name specifically in comparison to his own in order to explain why he is blowing you off - the answer is pretty much spelled out.
He said In lamens - If I'm not around you, I wont fuck you. period. And then took off. Surprising? Not really, because it sounds like he was spelling it out.
I feel like you deserve better, and maybe something more organic. This guy isn't worth your time. Move on, forget about this whole situation all together.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 ANON, if he got attached to her then he would leave his wife now wouldn't he? Let alone pick up and move to another state.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): that is not true, maybe he got attached to her. if she told him she made a mistake and wanted to see him and he dont want to see her. maybe he has the feelings for her. there has to be a reason somewhere in his head.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 he thought you wanted more, to be more than fwb. he's married so when you said to back of he did. now what is your problem. were you playing games and it backfired on you. be careful what you wish for.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
Nothing, this affair is over. Carlos and him are moving on..and not just to another state. Friendship can turn into a relationship..But a FWB cannot turn into a relationship. That is what you had. I suggest you move on and find a single man next time.
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