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writes:I date this girl for about 4 years. We broke up in August very amicably. We both loved each other but knew because of our circumstances could not get married. So I found out on fb 2 months later that she had met someone then she got engaged to him and then got married..all within 3 months of meeting him. I too met someone but did not announce it on fb. so she found out about a month ago that I was dating and the next thing I know she unfriended me. I am just baffled why she did that. I didn't unfriend her when I found out she was dating? I don't know if this is woman thing? Any thoughts? For those who want to know...yes I still have feelings for her and I know that she has moved on and I need to move on as well. fyi, I am no longer in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): Thank you for your responses! I had gotten something completely different than what you guys pointed out. I thought that she was trying to show me that she doen't like me anymore.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (29 March 2011):
 Hi,
All the answers above!
Its very simple. You both were in a relationship for 4 years (its a long time).
Even though she has moved on, she still have feelings left for you, its hard for her to see you have new someone.. I know its confusing because she's married? But that's how the "heart" works.
Don't think too much, better yet, don't think of her at all, its hard, but push yourself. She's moved on & its best you do the same.
Feel better! Good luck!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 March 2011):
 It's actually common to do this. My guess is she was having trouble moving on seeing your status updates and photo updates all the time, and seeing that you were in a new relationship was probably fairly gut-wrenching. It's just to help her get over you, that's all it is. In fact most articles and therapists when talking about breakups suggest this as the first thing to do to get over someone.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (29 March 2011):
 Because even though you have both moved on, it still hurts to know that you are with someone new. Following an ex's life day by day on FB is a form of self inflicted torture for some. So it's better to remove the temptation.
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reader, Carlakins08 +, writes (29 March 2011):
While each person has their own reasoning, The best guest I could say would be that she couldn't see you be with someone else. It seemed like it was a little bit of an ego boost for her to have you on their and accessible to the updates about her life and engagements. I have ex-boyfriends on my facebook and I will admit I find it flattering when they comment on pictures of me and my new boyfriend. When you got in a new relationship it showed that you moved on and maybe she wasn't able to handle that.
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reader, garcypher  +, writes (29 March 2011):
I unfriended my ex wife on face book when she started seeing someone else. It was because I couldn't stand seeing her with someone else. Feelings were still there on my part.
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