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anonymous
writes:I dated this guy for about 3 years and we have a kid together but we are seperated and im with someone else..My ex came up to me a few days ago and told me that i should tell my new boyfriend to be the father of our son and that he didnt want to be involved anymore... I know hes hurt and he still loves me and i still love him and part of me wants to be with him but im confused.. why did he say that is it because hes really hurt or is it because he really dont want to be apart of his sons life??? And what should i do about my mixed feelings???
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 You are both young (from the sounds of it) and this is his way of dealing with the hurt of not being with you. He probably figures the best way to avoid the pain is to avoid all contact with you and all memory of you -- including his child. I believe, at some point down the road, he will likely regret this decision and want to be involved with his son.
To sort out your own feelings, I think you need to take stock of what happened with your boyfriend in the past. Is the relationship salvageable? Why did you guys break up? How much have you invested with your current boyfriend?
Ultimately, the answer on whether to go back with your ex is up to you and how likely it is to succeed. Either way, you'll always wonder whether things would've worked out -- there really isn't an easy answer generally in these situations -- you open one door and another closes as they say. You'll have to weigh your options and figure out what is best for you and your son.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 February 2011):
I'm sorry to say this, but he's a worthless father. There's no excuse to give up on your kids. I would screw him as much as possible for maintenance, not listen to any emotional blackmail and do the best for your child. Don't think he loves you - he doesn't. He wouldn't have said what he did.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (2 February 2011):
If you really love him (your ex), why are you dating someone else? I think that will hurt a couple of people. Instead of decoding what he says you should put your energy in doing things right. Decide what you want in the first place, and the go for it.
In the other hand we don't have the roughest idea about why he told you that.
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