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writes:So I had to work with my ex on a project. We weren't on the best of terms before this project, but we were really nice to each other. But from his end, it was more than just being amicable. He went out of his way to be around me and talk to me as much as possible. But then he made a point of walking by me with another girl that evening..leaving w/ her and then coming in w/ her the next day. Even if his plans were to spend the night w/ her, he didn't have to flaunt it like that... It just doesn't make sense because why go above and beyond to get my attention..and then just hours later shove it in my face that he's seeing someone else? He could've been discreet about his other romance, which would've been smarter of him anyway as far as professionalism goes. My initial thought was "he wants you to get the hint that he's moved on" ...but I wasn't bothering him at all. I didn't give him any indication that I might want to rekindle things between us...so it doesn't seem necessary for him to take the opportunity to make his relationship w/ the other girl known... Why did he do that?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 May 2012):
 Sounds to me that 1. he didn't want to flub up the shared project and 2. he wanted YOU to know what a "great" guy you let go.
Keep remembering why you broke up and try and be happy for him, even if he is acting a tad petty.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (11 May 2012):
It’s questionable whether he actually was trying to get your attention, or you just thought he was. He might have just been a bit insensitive flaunting his new girlfriend, but doing so more because he’s happy than because he wanted to hurt you. But even if he is trying to get your attention by playing mind games and trying to make you jealous, just ignore it-if he doesn’t see that it gets to you he’ll soon get bored. If the subject of his new romance comes up, just tell him you wish him well for the future and that will put a stop to any mind games, if that’s what he’s doing. Just keep friendly, and keep dignified and professional, and concentrate on enjoying your own life and leave him to his.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (11 May 2012):
He could just be happy and wants to tell everyone. Some people are like that. I mean it is his girl friend...he should be able to leave and come with her before and after business hours. I think you read too much into the situation but then again that's just my opinion.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (11 May 2012):
 Because he knew you would be bothered, which you are. That was his only intention and he succeeded. If you were indifferent to his actions, then no matter what he did or who he went home with or came to office with, wouldn't have mattered to you in the least.
This guy knows that he still matters to you. Either he's trying to make you feel jealous by playing hot and cold or he's really with the other woman and is rubbing it in your face to show you that he's "won" the break-up and is happy and doesnt need you anymore. He's a jerk.
I dont know what you feel for this guy at this point of time, but IMO he's not worth it. Dont try to decode every action of his because that'll just drive you insane. If you've broken up, its for a reason. Stick to it and forget about him. Treat him just as a colleague and dont let him get to you.
All the best!
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