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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex and I were together for 4 years, including 1 year long distance. He dumped me 1.5 years ago. I've contacted him a few times and told him how terrible I felt. He's got a new girlfriend 3 months after we broke up. I was desperate. I've said bad things to him, cursed, or said how much I loved him and wished him happy and a bright future. He ignored me most of the time. Until 6 months ago, I decided to move on and cut all ties. I'm finally over him now.About 2 weeks ago, I got 2 e-mails from him telling me no matter where we both might be, he loved me, loves me, and will always love me. I was the one and he wished things were different so he could have me. He asked if I still remember him and think of him. He thinks of me every day. The first thing came to my mind was his girlfriend broke up with him. I had no feelings when I read the mails. I didn't write anything back. I've been thinking about why he contacted me again. His Facebook status still says who he's in a relationship with and his girlfriend's profile picture is a recent one of him and her celebrating birthday. Why did he contact me all of a sudden since he's still with his girlfriend? He knows I hate him and we are in two different countries. There's no possibility that we get back together again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2014): Ignore him, he wants to keep you dangling, he knew you had,a lot of feelings for him and now he knows your getting on with your life and have not paid him any attention he does not like that so he is trying to upset you and get your attention again. Just ignore him he sounds like an attention seeker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2014): I'd delete the emails as well so that you don't keep rereading them and reminiscing.
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reader, MSA  +, writes (26 November 2014):
 Maybe him and his current got into an argument and he felt lonely and unloved so he sent you that email.. maybe they broke up and he hasn't changed his Facebook status/pic.. whatever the reason, if he is in a happy healthy relationship, he will not write such an email. I mean, an email to say Hi how have you been is understandable.. but his email indicates that he is feeling lonely inside.
I would not respond and see if he continues to email or try to contact you.
Besides, you've moved on... shouldn't let his sudden appearance affect you anymore.
Best of luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 November 2014):
 Who knows? But why waste time wondering? I mean who cares, right?
You don't want to get back together and you claim to hate him, so why not just ignore it?
That's what I would do.
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (25 November 2014):
facebook status's are not always updated straight away.
he could be on the breaking point with his girlfriend and he is having a self pity moment and reminiscing with you.
also he could be happy with his girlfriend and is just feeling guilty because of how he made you feel and so is trying to make himself feel better by making sure you are ok .
either way just ignore him and get on with your life , if he ignored you then do the same to him
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