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writes:My boyfriend is travelling overseas to visit his family. He just texted me before boarding the plane saying he will miss me and that he'd see me in a few weeks.Then he told me to be a good girl for him while he is gone. That he will be a good boy for me.Not sure why he would even have to say that?Does that strike anyone as odd? Would it bother you if your significant other said that to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2016): Hello everyone and thank you for answering. It's the OP.
Yes, my boyfriend is controlling and he can be jealous. And yes, he can also be insecure.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 June 2016):
 I'm of the "it's a cute way to say goodbye" school but then I don't know him..is he controlling or jealous in any way?
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (18 June 2016):
 My boyfriend (now husband) used to travel alot, especially overseas sometimes for 2 weeks at a time. At the airport, he would always smile and say "Now be a good girl while I'm gone" and we would both laugh. It was just a joke between us nothing more. Unless your boyfriend doesn't trust you or is very controlling, I would imagine he was just trying to be cute.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (18 June 2016):
Instinctively I don’t like talk like that. I find it a bit sinister. I wouldn’t say it to a partner. But you have to look at the person who said it. Some-one who is controlling might mean something unpleasant or worrying by it, but if he’s a genuine guy who trusts you and doesn’t have other issues, then it was probably an attempt to be sexy or as others have suggested, to be cute. On its own, it really tells you absolutely nothing: if all is otherwise well, I wouldn’t give it another thought. It’s just a bit cringey as Andie’s Thoughts says, but otherwise harmless.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (18 June 2016):
 It would only make me cring because "boy" and "girl" isn't normally how you'd refer to adults, but I agree that he was probably going for cute.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 June 2016):
 Yeah, he was tryng to be cute. Or witty.
It does not mean anything, it's a way of saying. A rather common joke . " Behave ": "Don't do anything that I would not do ". I've heard it- and said it- so many times.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 June 2016):
 I think he was trying to be cute.
I wouldn't read more into it than that.
Personally, I'd ask my partner what makes him think I need to be told to be "good".... But I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
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