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writes:Im gay and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. Last night on the phone he told whoever rang him he was out with work mates and not me. He told me it was his mate who was out bowling. Now I'm wondering why he said that and could he be cheating on me. Or as I've never met any of his friends could he be embarassed by me and not have told his friends about me Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 He may not be cheating. He may not be out the closet to whoever it was on the phone. Ask him and see what he says.
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reader, Philostyle  +, writes (13 June 2007):
If the guy can casual lie or is somehow building an entire lie universe where he isn't out or doesn't want you to meet his friends, that is never a good sign. There are layers to not out men that I could really touch on but if he is older than 21 (sounds like a solid relationship) then he is a a-hole for not having the balls and just coming to terms with his situation and quite mind-f(ing) those around him.
Ultimately, you should just confront him and say that lying about weird crap is not really something your comfortable with and how much he wouldn't like it if it was you. period.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (30 May 2007):
 He should not have any reason to be embarassed about you or your relationship.
It does seems strange that after 7 months, you do not know any of his friends.
Perhaps he just made an excuse to avoid going out with his mates in case they made fun that he prefered being with you at that time rather than with them.
Either way, it was not honest which is a concern.
I would try to discuss this with him and find out from the horses' mouth!
You deserve to know where you stand.
Good luck
Angel of Love
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reader, laurie-loo +, writes (29 May 2007):
 oo i hate things like this, well my best advice to give you would be dont let curiosity get the better of you. if you have reason to beleive this man respects you and loves you and you trust him, try not to think about this it will only eat you up and start making you become possesive and paranoid. on the other hand if you have other indications your boyfrend could be seing someone else or you dont fully trust him then i think you need to sit down and talk with each other. although from reading the question i think maybe your boyfrend hasnt "come out of the closet" yet and hasnt told his frends hes gay or in a relationship with a man. if he drops any other hints about not telling people his sexuality, let him know that any frends who dont stand by his descicion to be gay - straight , whatever are not true freinds in the first place. i hope everything goes ok xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): Ask him! Do they know he is gay? Do they know about you? If they don't then that could be why, however if they do then that sounds unreasonable and insulting to you.
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reader, kais_yummy_minny +, writes (28 May 2007):
 dont think he is embarrased it could just be the fact that he doesnt think his friends will exept him because he is gay talk to your boyfriend tell him how you feel it will help i promise!!
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reader, Jubbaloo +, writes (28 May 2007):
 Dont jump to conclusions, it could just be a simple thing like if he said he was out with you, the other person might want to join you. Just see how things go, i'm not defending him, i'm just saying once you have something in your head it is really hard to get it out of your head. You could always sneak a look at his txt messages and stuff.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (28 May 2007):
 It could be his friends and family dont know he is gay, or perhaps he has a partner and is cheating on you both.
Tell him you have been together for a long time now and you would like to meet his family and friends?
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 May 2007):
 That's a guy sign for: "he's cheating on you".
DV1
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