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writes:I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months. We are very close, talk every day and are intimate, although we have not had sex. He told me early on that he had a dating profile on a website. I have been trying to deal with this fact since he told me. Last week he said he had been on a date with someone he had met off this site. I didnt know what to say. I asked him if he was seeing her again. He said its the first time he has done it, and wont be seeing this woman again. I guess what I would like advice on, is why did he tell me this? I dont know what to think. Why did he tell me, what did he hope to achieve by telling me? I just feel numb. Reply to this Question
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reader, crimson_kiss  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 I would definately have a sit down and ask all the questions you have about this. Get everything out in the open or else it will eat you ALIVE. Your mind will mull it over and over again.Be calm and ask him why he told you this? Is the profile still up? Is he still trying to connect with other women? If he cares about you, he will sit with you and answer any question that burns in your mind.
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reader, Starfish_2xtreme +, writes (11 March 2009):
I guess he was just trying to lay the cards on the table to you and be honest, but i think it may have backfired becuase he went on this date with someone else. If I were you I would talk to him and see what he wants with you - friendship or a relationship. If he wants to focus on you then he should give up the dating site. If not, he's not worth your time. Fair play to him for being honest, but you need to ask him what his motives are calmly. Good luck!!
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