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writes:I had sex the other night for the first time with a new man. It all seemed to be going fine and then he suddenly just stopped. I've never had that happen to me before but it has left me feeling inadequate and paranoid!I had had quite a bit to drink that evening but he hadn't. I know he finds me attractive as he had been pursuing me for weeks and we have passionately kissed many times before but never had sex until then. It began really well and then just fizzled out.Why would a man just stop like that? Reply to this Question
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 The only reasons I've stopped is because I either had to go to the restroom or fart. I am really sorry this happened to you during your first time together. Given your age, I'm thinking the two of you should be able to talk about it with a little humor. If there's a problem with his "equipment" humor may not be the way to go. If there is not a "next time" then he needs to tell you what happened. I'm sure everything's fine it's just a communication thing. I wish you all the best!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 In addition to what Lucy Lee said...
Maybe he lost his erection and was ashamed. Maybe he came quickly and didn't want to tell you. Maybe he strained a muscle and couldn't continue.
I don't think it's anything to do with you. As long as he's still showing he's interested, see how it goes next time.
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