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writes: I met my ex at school and we started dating in our final year, aged 16. We were together for 9 years but have recently seperated. we have three children under 5 together. He had an affair when I was 7 months pregnant and is now dating the women he had the affair with (the affair never ended). That was 4 months ago we are still in contact due to having kids together but I feel hurt every time I see or think about him. I miss him but no that we couldnt make it work although I wish we could work it out. just wondered whether he still thinks about me and whether the relationship will work or not. She is 30 he is 25 and she has recently divorced and has a daugther the same age as our son. We had problems in out relationships regarding finances and family members. he never took me anywhere but him and his new gf are going on holiday together. Do you think this is a rebound relationship or the real thing? he never show any hints as to what he is feeling but does things to try to make me feel jealous. I hate the thought of him and her together, they work together and he wants her to meet our children. Why did he leave me for her? I have also heard him reply to her on the phone that he loves her too but he whispered it while coming to collect the children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your reply. I really appreciate it. I was hoping to hear that it was a rebound relationship as it is really tough to hear that the affair had alot of meaning. I am trying to move on and I havent cried in ages. I know I need to move on and that is what i am working on. I will update you if anything changes.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 July 2007):
 I don't think I can answer why he left you for her. I would need to hear his side of the story. Maybe his relationship with her won't work, but in my opinion it's not a rebound.
You said very clearly that you'd like him back. I understand this; you have three children together, were together for nine years, et cetera. However, from what you write, it seems like he pretty much made his mind, and I don't think he will go back to you.
It will be very hard for you to get over him, particularly because of the baby of yours and the fact that he will continue to see the children. But, in the end, I think this is what you'll need to do. I think you should move on; this would help you have a clear direction for your life, which would be beneficial for you and your kids.
It's sad to hear what happened to you. I sincerely hope you can manage this.
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