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*abgriff
writes:I recently broke it off with a guy I was seeing LDR for 7 months. I got myself tested since I always want a clean break from everything before dating again, and found out I had Gonorrhea. I never had symptoms which was weird. I told my ex about it as he was a really nice man and I wanted him to be warned. He said he tested clean so which made me wonder if I got this from my previous partner... But that is not the question.I wanted to understand his last text message as I still have some feelings for him, and if there is a chance in the future for us to get together again I just wanted to know what he meant by it. I am too embarrassed with what I told him to ask him what he meant by it so maybe you guys can give it a try..."Wow. I am surprised since I just got tested too and am clean. You were the only girl I was sleeping with since I broke off with my last GF last year. But now I guess I need to tell her because it raises issues of what went on in the later stages of my relationship with her. But that is not your concern. The one good thing about this is we know it and you are getting treatment. Drop me a line when you are free."So... why the heck does he have to tell his ex about my std? And... is this guy serious about us contacting each other still, as friends at least?Thanks for hearing me out.
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reader, peppermall  +, writes (24 October 2009):
Maybe he slept with his ex girlfriend recently and even though he didnt come up with anything in a test he could be a carrier and past it onto her.
And him informing you about the ex in the story is proberly just trying to spite you.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 I'd ask him. Now my view, just from reading what you wrote, is that he may be checking his bases. Such as, you were the only one he'd been with since his ex. So, if he were to have had it, you would have had to been with someone during the time you were with him, or a short break in between being with him. There can also be a chance of his being "a carrier" which means at this time, he's showing up negative, but still carries where you can contract the STD. Therefore, telling his ex is important, cause in order for him to carry, he'd have to pick it up from somewhere as well. So his talking to her may be warning her as well, or telling her it'd be important for her to get tested, just in case.
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reader, sabgriff +, writes (24 October 2009):
sabgriff is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh I forgot to say.... he also said "Am so sorry for that."
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reader, tux +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Maybe he's not as clean as he said he was and thought maybe his ex gave it to him which gave it to you?
But this brings up an interesting point.. you said you get tested at the end of your relationships, but do you have your soon-to-be partner tested as well before you have sex let alone unprotected sex? Because some diseases, it does not matter if you test positive for at the end, because you are stuck with them for life.. I hope you get your partners tested as well before you have sex with them...
But as far as what he said.. it could mean plenty of things, you need to ask him... but it does sound like he wants another go with you.. at least sexually..
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