| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: my ex and i started talking after i reached out to him after a year and with him knowing i want to try to work things out and also that i cant just be friends. He said we will exchange calls and then meetwe have been talking for almost two months and have been taking turns calling each other..there have been a few times when i called and didn't hear from him that night..and two of the times i figured it was too late and he was sleeping and it was also just the beginning when we first started talkingnow its been almost two months and it happened again last night..i called him thursday at about 8:50 or so..no call back or text..and now friday has passed and no call back(im thinking b/c its the weekend)...but i still see it as rude even if we arent dating---u can't acknowlege my call through a text and just say sorry i missed it, im busy this weekend...im just starting to feel like now i have to play a game and not be so available if he does even call me back...i dont see how that is right to do even if we arent back together right nowmy guy friend says he doesnt see it as totally wrong b/c you arent together right now..am i overreacting? do i let this go and play the game as well a little? i feel like its pathetic to pick up if he calls me now rather than wait a few days to call back..its like he is forcing me to play a game in order for me to show that if you arent available for me then i am not going to be so available for you...
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, tux  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 I think you may be over-reacting a little bit by calling it a game on his part.. You are the one who wants to get back together, but he may not feel the same about the relationship and may be busy doing other things, or doesn't want to face what he may feel as a dumping even though you are not together.. It does not seem like he wants what you want.. you may just need to move on and spend your time finding someone else.
A
female
reader, sabgriff  +, writes (24 October 2009):
i think maybe he is not as interested in pursing a relationship again with you. maybe he is starting to think twice about his decision to give it another try. and now he is merely texting and calling you to be polite. i suggest that you stop pursuing him for a while and see if he makes the first move. by the way... is this an ldr? how come you don't mention if you've seen each other or gone out yet?
...............................
|
