A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi there.i was dating online, and got talking to someone who i was interested in. we hit it off straight away and had so much fun talking every night, and speaking on the phone. he wanted to meet so he could spoil me. told me all the time how beautiful i was. we flirted like crazy, and discussed things of a very low key, sexual nature, it was all fun, and i was growing keen to him. i wouldnt go over board and say i fell for him, i didnt, but i enjoyed our conversations. and despite having no feelings, i would of met up to see if it could be something more. things had always been left on a good note. then two days go by, and id herd nothing.id tried to txt (only a couple of times) the usual, 'r u ok, u gunna say hi 2day', and didnt hear anything back. so i thought, u know, could be anything, doesnt necissarily mean the obvious. then im online, i spot him, send another message....nothing....then i ask if iv done something wrong (i knew i hadnt, but for arguments sake)...still nothing. in the end , i gathered something had upset him, so ,i deleted him from my contacts list. i didnt want to, but i took the hint. im a little down about it, because, i kinda feel like iv lost a friend more than anything. dont get me wrong, i liked him ,but not in like, a 'your mr.right' kinda way, we just got on so well, i dont understand why i was suddenly being ignored. was i too laid back, or shouldnt i have messaged him, like the whole three or four times lol??? i dont get it.
View related questions:
flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, DrPsych +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Jennifer Aniston has recently spoken out about online dating in an interview - she says it is a messed up way of meeting people that invariably leads to disappointment when you meet them in the real world (or words to that effect). I tend to agree with her...you were not friends with this man, you didn't know him in the real world and you just enjoyed his flattery. He could have been completely different in the flesh...people hide behind an online persona to make up for whatever is lacking in their real lives. The fact he has now dropped you like hot coal suggests he is not a very nice person and would have made you feel bad or used you for sex if you had met him. That is the nature of online dating unfortunately - there will always be plenty of fish in that online sea. Predatory people can have a great time juggling between multiple online potential suitors hoping to get lucky sexually with a few! You are young and it is ok to make a mistake. However, remember how you feel right now - dejected, sad, resentful - and take that away as a lesson learned from this situation. There are lots of lonely people in the world and it can be hard to find a date these days that will treat you well. However, the chances of finding someone nice and suitable on the internet are way lower than in the real world. Sadly, it is easy to lie, cheat and scam people using a computer. Delete your dating account and try to find ways of meeting people in your community.
A
female
reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Some men have a habbit of ignoring people because they dont want to say how they feel.
Im sorry this has happend to you but maybe he has met or has someone else, maybe he didnt feel the spark, who knows i do know that he seems a bit of a coward for the fact he is now just ignoring you.
You did exactly what i would have done texts and messages just an explanation would be nice, i dont see him replaying so just leave him be good luck with the online dating im sure your prince will turn up some day.
...............................
A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Just a guess but maybe he met someone else on whatever dating site you are using? You always have to keep in mind with online dating that while you might be talking to a guy and having a great time, the chances are he is doing it with a number of other girls too! You have to pay for these sites therefore most people want to get their money's worth - therefore it makes no sense to put all your eggs in one basket so to speak!
The chances are he was talking to you plus a few others, and maybe he has met up with one of them and really likes her? Or maybe one that he has been talking to is suddenly becoming more interesting so he's going to focus on her?
That might not be the case, but it does seem quite likely. I dont think you scared him off or anything, its just like the good old saying "he's just not that into you". Its a tough thing to accept but its more than likely the truth. Forget about him and move on, there will be other guys on this dating site I'm sure that are interested in you!
I hope this helps and good luck!
...............................
|
