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writes:Hi just some updates on whats been going on please tell me if you think things are going well thankyou.2 nights ago i went over to her house about ten then left at 4 in the morning. txt her to tell her i got home safe and made a joke about having to control myself cause she is so sexy and she said that if i felt like that we couldnt be friends......i just dont know? :(Yesterday (sun) we txt about the above txt and i told her how i felt and hoped romance would grow then Last night (sun) we wnet out another crazy drive and went back to her house I got in about 4am again. I tickled her a lot and made sure i had lots of little contact (lots of tickling!) none of which she shrugged off or was unhappy with. what do you guys think how am i getting on?Original post is below.Hi i posted this question the other day and got lots of fantastic answers. since then we took the car to the garage yesterday and spent 14 hours driving to different places and got dinner together. whats everyones thought on this is it a good sign??Hi, please help im getting sad :)I have worked with a girl for a year now. up until 2 and a half months ago i had a girlfriend. i always liked the girl i worked with but would never dream of cheating. the girl from work dated a guy from work too but he cheated on her and they split bout 4 months ago it was a bit messy and public at work. i have told the girl how i feel about her and we have always been good friends. other people in work have also said to both of us that we should go outbecause we get on so well. we txt each other all the time. she said that she didnt want to go out cause after the split with the guy from work she saw a guy but it was complicated and she is still getting over it and severing the ties. this was a few months ago that they split. she said that she doesnt want a relationship till she is over it and this is the reason and she is not protecting my feelings. we went a drive on mon night to a 24 hr supermarket to get a present for her friends boy. we are also goin to drop her car off at my fathers garage on fri and then go to lunch to celebrate her moving dept at work, but as friends. we have such good fun together and others think so too. i think that maybe she wants to see how we get on in thse situations 1st and that if i am there for her and impress her then maybe when she is ready she will want more.......please help what do u think.....thankyou
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 August 2009):
 My guess is that she is reluctant to get involved with another work colleague because of what happened last time, which is understandable. Hence her text about just being friends.
She clearly likes you because she hasnt told you to back off, but then again I dont think she wants anything more than friendship from you at the moment. As you said, her break-up was messy and public at work, therefore she wont want to go through all that public humiliation again. Dating a work colleague is never a good idea, it always ends up in a mess and becomes too complicated seeing each other every day at work as exes.
I think you should just let this one go, no matter how much you flirt with her or spend all your time with her, you wont be able to convince her that being with you is worth it when the potential for embarrassment at work is so high. Just be happy being friends and leave it at that, and look for your next girlfriend outside of work!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 I think you are getting all sorts of mixed signals. Id just be friends with her for now, for she seems to change her mind from one day to the next...move on.
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