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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Well I I'm still struggling with my situation. My boyfriend cheated and possibly got this other girl pregnant. I'm trying to get over it cause I myself had cheated but I just can't. I'm not trying to keep score but he cheated on me with three different women. I did it only once. Then one day I'm at home and find pictures of all three girls on his computer even the one that's pregnant. I'm really in love with him but if he loved me wouldn't he get rid of these things. I find myself always thinking the worst of him. I sometimes think I'm scared to be alone. What's worse is that he even denied me and our baby to this girl. When I finally called her she said that he told her I was his crazy ex girlfriend that got his phone at a party and was pregnant but he didn't even think it was his. It hurts alot to think he would actually say those things. I've stuck with him through the hard times and now I just feel like a doormat!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 July 2010):
For God's sake dump him.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (22 July 2010):
Thats because you are a door matt to him? and the other girl i don't think? has no reason to lie to you. it sounds like he is not done sewing his oats. and yes you made a mistake but you realize that but it wont change who he is.
sounds like you have a serious decision to make yes you love him but does he love you? and there is a Lil girl involved who is your daughter. he has no remorse for anyone but him'self in my opinion you can do better love works both ways and it takes 2 and if you know in your heart that it's not going to work? your still young get out enjoy you and your daughter and a good man will come along and he will take on the package you and your daughter stop being a his door matt. and know he's going to treat the other women the same it's just who he is!
Best Wishes!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Time to leave that loser honey!
What are you waiting for?
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (22 July 2010):
 You are a doormat. He cheated on you multiple times and may have gotten another girl pregnant, yet you welcome him back with open arms. Of course he's going to keep cheating because there are no consequences for his behavior. He treats you like a door mat because he does not respect you, and part of why he does not respect you is because you allow him to walk all over you.
The only way you're going to get others to respect you is if you respect and honor yourself. Staying in a relationship with a man who cheats is not honoring yourself OR your daughter. You wouldn't want her to end up in a relationship with a man who cheats on her, so why do you allow it in your own life?
You must to get past your fear of being alone because this guy is putting your life in danger with his behavior. If he got another girl pregnant he obviously wasn't wearing a condom and could have very easily infected you with HIV, HPV, or any number of STDs. My brother and his wife died of AIDS; is this man worth dying for?
PS: A dude who denies his child so he can get with a woman is pure garbage.
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