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writes:HiI posted a question a while back about my boyfriend, I discovered he was going behind my back meeting with his ex of 5 years in a non sexual way apparently(dat was admitted by both of them) and believe me she wud hav told me if they did. Anyway I took him back and we both are trying to get thru this, he is working very hard to help me with my insecurities but problem is she just won't go away. She calls for pointless reasons, the dog they once shared now lives with her and she wants him to visit the dog!!!!, sends a xmas card to him FROM yhe dog, sends ridiculous letters to his new address. At Xmas ESP she was calling him a lot to which he ignored but come on she knows we're together, knows he spent Xmas with me. Is she trying to wind me up? We had an argument and it ended with me making him call her to tell her to stop contacting him! But even dat wasn't enuf to put my mind at ease, I dont know wot will! I'm trying to understand her and of course I can cos I've been hurt before and know how hard it is to move on but she seems like a clever girl, why can't she be mature enough to realize that they are over now, best to leave him alone to be happy just as she should be doing herself! What can be done about this, advice neededThank you
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reader, cfemale +, writes (12 January 2009):
cfemale is verified as being by the original poster of the question Your so right, thank you for your thoughts on this, to my knowledge he has stopped all contact, since he spoke to her directly about not ringing him anymore she seems to have gotten the jist, I know it's going to take her time so I will just have to be patient.
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reader, LoveyDoveyBear  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Well she can't be mature if she sends a xmas card from her dog, lol? Well whatever she does, I think your boyfriend should just lay it all out and have no contact with her. If your boyfriend keeps responding to her then she is never going to move on or let go.
She's probably thinking he still keeps in touch with me, so maybe he still cares and maybe we'll be back together. Or maybe she knows its over but shes trying to break u guys up.
Well my brother was kind of in the same situation. His ex seemed pretty psycho to me, but I guess my brother just totally ignored her and eventually she stopped doing all the crazy stuff.
Anyways if your bf loves you, he should just stop all contact with her and just ignore her, I mean an EX is an EX for a reason right?
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