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writes:I was in a relationship with who I was convinced was "The One". We were together for 6 months and 8 days. It was the happiest I've ever been. I loved her more than life itself. She always called me on my break. And we always talked. I didn't smother her and I wasn't constantly in her case. She had all the freedom she wanted. She had guy friends that she hung out with but I trusted them. But on that faithful day, she told me that she just didn't love me anymore. How is It possible for a seemingly perfect relationship to just fall apart in a matter of seconds. When we first got together, she gave me a necklace. I promised her that I would never take it off. And I kept to that promise. After the break up, we still talked almost every day. But after about 2 weeks, she said that she no longer wanted to be my friend. It killed me. But why? I just want to know, what is the best way to get over her. Because I still love her with all of my heart and soul. I wouldn't have bought a $4000 engagement ring if I didn't... Reply to this Question
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 You sound like a romantic soul who gets easily swept up in the fantasy of love. This is not a bad thing. With all the bitterness and harshness that's going on in the world today, it is refreshing to see that there are still people like you who believe in the power of love. This girl did not appreciate your unique gift. She will end up dating a bunch of jerks, only to realize later in life that she had something special with you. By then it may be too late. I hope you find someone who truly appreciates what you have to offer. Don't let this girl destroy your ability to love with all your heart. You will love again, and what you have to look forward to is a woman who reciprocates your love.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 You bought her a $4000 engagement and you're 21? How could you even afford that?
Life is rarely ever fair OP. Your girlfriend might have meant the world to you but sadly you didn't mean the same to her. Its not because you did anything wrong but just because sometimes things don't click. Harsh as it sounds, that's how life is.
If you love her, let her go. Cliché as it sounds, its true. Let go of things that are not in your control because no matter how much you wish you can change things, you cant. Remember, when God closes a door, somewhere out there he opens a window. Someday you will meet the girl who is truly meant to be the love of your life and then you will look back at the 20 year old you and smile...you will smile because you will see that if not for this break-up and the chain of events after this, you would never have met the person you were eventually destined to meet and fall in love with.
OP I had my first crush at 12. It was the most wonderful feeling in the whole world, to stand by the window and wait for guy to come riding along the street on his bicycle. It broke my heart that he didn't feel the same way about me but I laugh whenever I think about it now because he's literally the biggest loser in town today! When my met my now ex boyfriend in college, I thought I couldn't be happier. I thought that I had everything I wanted, that the world was at my feet, that no one else could possibly be happier than I was because I was in love. Was I? Not really. I was in love with the idea of being in love with the guy who had a crush on me since high school. And boy did that relationship fail!! It literally couldn't have gone worse!!
After all this and more, when I look back and see where I am today with my fiancé whom I love, I look back and think, that if not for every relationship that failed and every experience that I had, I would never be with this amazing guy. Thank God it didn't work out with anyone else, or I would never have experienced all the joy and happiness that I have today.
In the same way, you too will realize one day that this just wasn't meant to be and its a good thing that it didn't. You will love again, you might have your heart broken again, but in no way will that take anything away from you. Because one day, you WILL find love that's true and in the end, that's all that will matter.
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reader, Mokoj  +, writes (23 November 2013):
common senario my young friend
you have been too good, too honest & therefore you lost the thrill that she wanted in the relationship & got bored ,
your still young and you'll find another hopefully better girl and you'll get over her,
for the moment cut any means of connection with this girl even if it was in the cyber space and keep focusing in your future possibilities
Good Luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 You need to return that ring. You dont know this girl. That is why you are confused. You barely knew her, and you probably filled in the holes with wishful thinking. You were not seeing the relationship the same way she did. If you want to be married you need to know that love is never enough. It wouldnt have lasted, and she did you a favour by letting you go so soon. It would have been way more painful later.
It hurts now, but not because she was the right one.. It hurts because you just got your dreams crushed. You had a dream of what the future eould be like, and you were living in that dream and not seeing things for how they were. You are hurting because she took that dream away and showed you she wasnt all that you dreamed her to be.
You will love again. I know this for sure. It might take a few years to heal. Give yourself that time. But then, when you are ready, you will find love again. Next time, do not rush it.
Return the ring or it will just be a painful reminder. Do not keep it in the hopes that she will come back. Do not take her black even if she asks. Shr broke your trust. She will just hurt you again. So return/sell the ring, even if that means losing money.
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