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writes:How can I stop worrying about the future?I graduated with a 2:1 degree last November but in a subject that I don’t want to do anymore and won’t help me get a well paid job (Film). I have goals I want to achieve in the future, me and my boyfriend want to get married in our late 20’s, go on exotic amazing holidays and have a child when we’re in our early 30’s but I just keep getting worried about finances. I’m only working 20 hours a week in a café which pays my rent, bills ,and food but not a lot of room for saving, and my boyfriend lives with his parents and is only on a minimum of 12 hours a week in a retail (he didn’t go to uni). But my main worry is that I’m feeling so lost right now, I don’t know what I want to do as a career, and the thought of doing office work is soul destroying…I’m the complete opposite of someone who usually works in one, I’m dis-organised and hate phones. I’m more creative but my work is no-where near good enough to be professional and I fear if I worked in drawing I’d lose interest as it would be forced…and It wouldn’t pay a lot. I have a dream of buying a lovely house in a nice area (not a city) as I hate the thought of renting all my life and never being able to properly settle down and make the house ours. My boyfriend has a rough idea of what he wants to do in the future and, I really don’t know and it keeps depressing me. Please do you have any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2015): My mate studied film and she's a 'runner' for ITV.
Another also studied film and she now works at Just Eat.
Get that 2.1 and then apply for ALL the jobs that interest you. Most jobs train you for a post if it's not directly linked to your course.
Trudge on.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (22 July 2015):
Xx-Scorpio-xX is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for all your replies, it makes me feel a little better to know I'm not the only one feeling like this.
And MSA i would take a second job but over here in the UK (i'm not sure if it's the same in the USA) we get taxed highly (20%) for second jobs and to me that wouldn't really be worth it :(
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 July 2015):
 You can't change the past.... and can only anticipate - and prepare for - the future. All else that you struggle with - mentally - is wasted energy.....
Good luck....
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (21 July 2015):
 I don't have any advice, because I am in a very similar situation, but all you can do is just keep plugging away.
I am in my early 30's, have a PhD, and have worked and studied to get to a very high point within my chosen industry. Sadly, my contract ended due to funding issues, and now it seems that there are few/none opportunities for someone with my qualifications. In the last year I have been to many interviews, only to be told I am overqualified for the post, or I don't have the long-term experience needed for the higher grades of pay. It is soul destroying and makes you wonder what the point of it all was.
I am a great believer in lists. Write down all your skills, what you want to achieve and what you enjoy.
By understanding more what you have to offer and what you WANT, it might help crystallize the situation in your mind, and point you in a new direction. You might find you have a hobby you can turn into a business!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2015): I get how you feel. I was watching an episode of the peep show once and the bloke said 'I thought I knew what I was doing with my life, but I don't have a ^^^^^ng clue!'.That is exactly how I feel!I also got 2:1 at uni in a pointless subject. I did loads of different jobs after uni even volunteered in a role for 3 years I thought would lead to a paid job- it didn't. Currently I'm trying to save so me and my boyf can move out and buy a house, feels impossible though.The whole 'follow your dreams thing' sounds good but doesn't work in reality for most people. The majority have to work hard and put in the hours to go on nice holidays etc My goal now is to earn a decent wage and have my own project on the side doing work I enjoy, if I make money with that good, if not I enjoy it anyway. But basically you need a main income to fund your 'life'. You might have to do a job (like office etc and trust me there are a lot worse things than office work!) in order to save and get on in life, go on holidays and enjoy yourself. I basically have only a couple of jobs I know from experience that I absolutely hate so I don't do these. Anything else is fine with me if it pays my bills and a bit of fun too.
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reader, MSA +, writes (21 July 2015):
 Have you tried signing up with Job Agencies? You have a degree, so shouldn't be hard to find some work. Job agencies can place you at jobs in different fields so you get the exposure to different companies and positions. Then you can decide which job is right for you. If one job isn't enough, take on two jobs. If you are determined to make it work, it will work.
I once worked three jobs just to save up for that exotic vacation, it was one tough year... but I had the best time during my vacation.
You can do it too! Good luck!
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