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writes: why cant i get pregnant!!me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for nearly 7 months and it just isnt happeningit is cos im only 15 or is it just cos i cant have children.i really want one. me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and are now engaged he has left school and is working full time on 6.60 an hour and i have left school and am going to college and working part time on 2.70 an hour. we are settled and the only thing we want now is a baby!!why cant we have onereplies pleasee :(xx louise xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): myself and boyfriend have been trying for 7 month too and still no luck.
but i personally think 15 is too young to have a child and plus it is illegal to have sex under 16.
i feel your only a child yourself
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reader, penta  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 Having a baby now would be extremely selfish. Think of this person you'd be bringing into the world. Don't you want everything for it? Mommy & me classes (cost money), good education (costs money) nice toys (cost money) not to mention a good home, diapers and everything else (which all cost money). You are in a position to give these things to a baby, so trying to have one is the height of selfishness. Please wait!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Gurl Im going through the same thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi everybody
thanx for all the answers
i just really am desperate for one
thanx again x
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reader, shauna +, writes (13 August 2007):
omigoodness! since you are in another country im not sure how expensive things are there, but here in the u.s. it would be impossible to even rent on both of your salaries! my boyfriend makes over $10.00 an hour, 40 hrs a week, and i make 8.00 working 40 hrs a week. we live decently, but if we had a child we wouldn't have any money whatsoever. i am amazed that you want a child so young! please reconsider, i think you should try to do some babysitting for someone you know or like the other aunt said, get a puppy. please try to remember you have your whole life!
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (13 August 2007):
Hi there,
There is help for single mums to get an education, but that doesn't mean it will work out like that. Most likely, you will drop out because it will all be too much to cope with. Babies are exhausting, 24-hour 7 day a week commitments. That doesn't fit well with getting homework assignments done, and revising for exams does it? Why the head-long rush to get old? You have years and years to have children. Why not see a bit more of the world and enjoy your time with your boyfriend first? Babies deserve to have parents who are grown-ups. That means people who have got their education, got a career, got a home, and have some life experience. You can tick not a single one of those boxes. You will not be able to afford to support your baby properly, which means you and your baby will be stuck on a low income for the rest of your life. Doesn't a baby deserve more than that? If you go ahead with this plan and get pregnant, you will be selfishly putting your desire for a baby above that baby's right to a good start in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): My friend had her baby when she turned 16 and she is finishing her education. There are alot of help for young mums out there.
If it's what you want then do it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Jeeze Louise, Louise! Listen to the previous aunt.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 August 2007):
 I guess it's fate intervening and it's telling you to STOP TRYING! You are so young! I hope that you get more replies that can go more in depth than I can... I'm sort of out of energy for this question.
Reasons To Not Have A Baby:
1. http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php -- please, please go to this website that will lay out the expenses of having a child.
2. After you have a baby, you can NEVER be young again. NEVER EVER EVER. No more fun, no more hanging out with your friends, no time to spend giggling and laughing and kissing your boyfriend, no more dates, no more time to yourself. Not until your baby is 18, every second of every day will be devoted to your baby.
3. Both of you are not making enough money together to be able to support yourselves AND a child. A baby is endless expenses. Check out that website.
4. Forget about finishing your education. You will have to be with your baby 24/7 and your boyfriend will probably have to drop out so that he can get more hours at work.
5. I hope you weren't planning on doing a lot of travelling in the next couple of years. Because with the baby - ain't gonna happen. And if it does, you're not going to be able to just explore... you're going to have a baby to answer to first.
This list could go on and on and on, but I'm actually running behind in my schedule and I have to take a shower.
Why don't you save up money for your wedding first? Maybe a honeymoon? You and your boyfriend sound happy... why not get a puppy? They are adorable, you can nurture them... and they're a little easier than babies. At least if you end up getting overwhelmed with a puppy you can drop the dog off at the pound!
Please reconsider. Both of you should finish up your degrees and get a few more raises in pay before you concieve. Wait until you're eighteen at least.
PLEASE!
-India
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Be patient, sometimes it can take a while and seeing as your stressing - it's not helping. After you've been trying for a year go to the Dr and explain.
I have no idea if you can or cannot have children. I would say it's because your worrying and not because you can't have children. I know your young and I won't judge because you can do whatever you like, it's you life!
As I said before if you still haven't after a year then contact your Dr.
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