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writes:I know I need to move on and forget my bf because we just don't see eye to eye which I could live with but he can't. Why is it so hard for me to move on? I have at least 5 guys asking me out a week but I don't want to go out with anyone. Even my ex bf from 3 years ago wants to get back and to get married. I just don't want any to touch me or talk to me about a relationship. I have never felt this way when breaking up before. Why can't I get on with my life? I feel absoultely horrible! I can't function. I know it is because I love him deeply but we just can't make it together because he can't work on anything that goes wrong. He is stubborn. This is so darn hard, the hardest thing I have been through. Why did I have to fall in love with him? Why can't I move on? Nothing makes me happy like it used to.
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reader, lanale +, writes (23 March 2009):
I am sorry that you're going through this. Maybe you just need time to heal and get over it. I was with a man for 4 years and it took me about 1 year to get over it completely. I did not date in that time because knew that it would be a "rebound" type of thing. Give yourself time. Find things to do with friends and family. If it helps, try and talk about how you're feeling to others.
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reader, Jennie10 +, writes (23 March 2009):
3 weeks. he had a sick friend - 84 visiting for 10 days which I know stressed him - thats what we talked about not about anything in the relationship. He now is travelling for about 10 days - running again. I know it is hard for him as well. He wants to call (and talk?)when he gets back but as much I want to i cant be friends and go thru this again. This is the most darn thing I have ever been thru I really love and loved him.
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reader, Nico-La-Yo  +, writes (23 March 2009):
The type of thing I've done in that situation is a) TRY and upset myself..it sounds ridiculous but I use it to think of every little thing about that problem that makes me upset and get it all out my system (with long standing heartache like yours difficult..but with me it got the crying in the middle of the street when thinking about it stage out the way) b) distract yourself as much as possible...maybe not other guys yet but this is where girlfriends come in handy. And as irritating as it sounds and completely useless as far as giving you advice to sort it is concerned, time will be the only thing that finally gets rid of it. How long ago was it since you broke up if you don't mind me asking? And do you know how he's handling it?
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