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writes:I need your advce guys, I met a guy in 2006 while I was in my second last year at uni, he was working as a legal adviser and some how we liked each other, he use to call me almost 5 times a week, we use to meet mostly at night because I was doing part time and he had hectic schedules at work, we use to get along very well if he is too busy he even call me to his office, during weekends (but no sex involved), just weeks after i met him a friend of mine (Guy) passed away in an accident and I was so heartbroken, than this guy thought I was dating the guy that passed away, I one day asked him what he wants because i was thinking like he is a man of class, even though he don't show it, so he wouldnt have any thing to do with a student, than he said bacause of what happened he will take his time, he don't want to take advantage of what happened (the death of my friend)but afterwards we still used to call each other and meet, he would feel really baad if he is the only one calling. Then I got very atached to him somtimes he is like a brother to me, sometimes we got really emotional with each other.One day he asked me to give him a daughter, I refused cause we are not dating and was not ready financially. We had sex once, then his idea of a daughter was so strong and I started pushing him away, he was a foreigner in my country but he went to UK for his master, but never contacted me ever since but it has been a year without contact but I miss him a lot, no matter how hard I try to forget him. How can I delete him out of my head and heart? I think I was in love with him, am hoping to meet him again in the same circumtances without a girlfriend or any thing - PH
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reader, taina1980  +, writes (18 December 2008):
I agree you shouldn't have jumped into anything that serious with your eyes closed... the fact that he has disappeared out of your life like that just proves that he wasn't ready for anything that serious. that being said, when you love someone you give 100 percent... being that you couldn't shows that you are confused about your feelings because it took this to happen for you to realize that you "love" him...if you think about the right time to have a child it will never be the right time because cirumstances in everyones lives can always be a little bit better... I think he wasn't worth it but being that you have such deep feelings for the guy it will take time... you have to play your position & give your all to try to get over him... if your just sitting around wondering what coulda woulda shoulda you will never forget...& if he is not trying to contact you he obviously has moved on & that's what you need to think about...my mother has always told me a saying that says nadie se muere por una amor que no le conviene... which means that no 1 will die over a love that isn't good for them in the first place.... be strong don't sit around...lo que no mata engorda & that means what doesn't kill you will only make you fat....
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Wait, wait. You've been meeting for several months, you had sex once and then he asked you to get pregnant?
Yeah, I totally love him too now.
Perhaps you should reconsider the whole situation. Especially the part where he left and never called. It must be, because he is so caring.
But honestly - wake up. Whatever it is that you two had, it's probably over.
Aren't there any men where you live? Is there no one else you can meet? I'm sure there are, but as long as you chose to remain single, you will.
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