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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well alright...here goes! I'm a 19 year old Asian American. Throughout my childhood, I have had my string of girls that had a crush on me but I had followed my parent's strict code of "no girlfriend before college" and just sat idly as those girls move on with their lives.And then I started college! Which, for the most part meant meeting much less girls for me. I mean, you don't really get to interact with or do projects like they did in high school. So the only girls I meet are now just friends of friends. To be honest, I think the amount of girls I've been acquainted with in college can be counted with my fingers.So I looked to free online dating sites. From there, I pretty much messaged every single girl from my area(something along the lines of "hi, how are you...would like to get to know you etc.) And not a single reply. So why can't I find a girlfriend? I'm tired of being so lonely.
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reader, so very true +, writes (29 February 2012):
it is the women out there today that have a very bad attitude problem, and are very nasty when you try to start a conversation with them. if i could meet a woman that will not play games, and would know how to act, the chances may be a lot better.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (27 October 2010):
 your online approaches are wrong.i never answer a guy who says how u doing unless he's SOOOOO HOT,but even if he is,our conversations never last because he's only SOOO HOT.
When you message a girl online,comment on something she has on her profile.
A good site is tagged.com
example : Hey how are you? Hmm you are on my list but I never messaged you.Well I see you like (name of the band),and this is impressing.I was listening to (name of their song) yesterday while cooking.
This is 90% successful because
A) it's not a "send it to all" message. The girl will appreciate the effort you made by sending her a unique messsage.
B) You talk about something she posted on her profile,so that means you READ her profile. (hundreds of guys message women without a clue about them)
C) you compliment her on something SHE LIKES,not her physical attributes!
D) you provide something to talk about...
E) and something more...(while cooking)
Now,when it comes to the REAL world,all u gotta do is..
FORCE YOURSELF. Attend every party your university hosts,join clubs,do everything "followtheblackrabbit" told you. Don't just thinnk of it. DO IT.
and most importanlty,DO NOT GIVE UP.
Look for videos online
youtube.com
ehow.com
type in "how to talk to a girl" how to complicate a girl
"how to ask a girl out"
WATCH "Hitch" a movie with Will Smith.
WORK ON YOURSELF.
Everything will go well :-)
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Try joining a few clubs at school or maybe even going to sports events...coffee shops around campus. Join some study groups! Awesome way to meet people and get to know to them a little. Junk food and cram sessions bring people together :D I go to school in the southern part of the U.S and a big tradition there (I think) are these coffee and pastry study nights and then, texting each other the next day about the freshman 15 :p
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reader, deadwalk  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Wow this is awesome I got a friend now wic is similar to my problems so we both are traveling in same ship am 22 years old boy indian am also tired to find a girl in my life but my parents never made strict. Am a free bird but living like a lonely ghost at a girl had crush on u but in my case I think no girls will like me but keep on trying bro u wil get a perfect girl for u and pls wish me to get a girl good luck brother :)
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