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*mcurioustoo
writes:My bf and I have been together for 1 year 2 months and in our relationship he's made me orgasm 4 times max and that also included me stimulating myself .. What could I do to have a more satisfying sex life I want the big O too but I want him to do it to me .. Not have to help myself.. Even when I help myself sometimes I just cannot orgasm its so frustrating cause he does everytime and I feel so unsatisfied I need tips everyone help me out here
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): did you have this same problem with previous sexual partners? if not, do you remember what they did that allowed you to reach the big O? have you tried those things with him? if you did have this same problem with others you may just be one of those women who have a difficulty reaching the orgasm (and don't worry your not alone)
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reader, imcurioustoo +, writes (23 June 2009):
imcurioustoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not that im unsatisfied with our sex life, and were verrrrrrry open with eachother and have no problem whatsoever saying what feels good or whatever . So its not a communication thing I mean I talked with him and suggested that he take more time foreplay,nice music ,candles, just set the mood properly .. And just asked him to love on me and not focus on my big O just to make sure I feel as loved as possible... and when he does that it really does help.. Even if I don't orgasm the sex is soooooooooooo much better I think that might be because there's a difference between screwing and love making.. He's a wonderful lover believe me he's a half puerto rican and half italian .. So I've got that latin spice and the italian lover ... so there's noooo problem there at all..... and we definently switch up posistions and try new things .. It just doesn't seem to work.. And I feel bad because I know that he wants that for me too. And just can't seem to do it.. id really apprecaite suggestions .. Descriptions too if your compfortable.. Its just frustrating to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): relax, don't concentrate on having an orgasm but on how good the sex feels,try different positions that stimulate your g-spot, possibly consider toys that stimulate the clitoris (most women need this in order to reach orgasm). but most importantly make sure you are openly communicating with eachother on what you like, what feels good and bad and if you have specific desires or things you would like to try. it may be akward to talk about and hard to admitt that you are unsatisfied but in the long run it can substantially improve your sex life
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